She moved out dec 28th. It took me weeks to get the house back to where i can keep it up so ima try to keep from tracking mud everywhere lol. I've boxed part of her stuff up. Try to keep busy doing puzzles, help others in similar situations and working to be the best dad i can be. I've made some amazing friends during this process and they have helped. Right now i have so much going for me. She moved out voluntarily, i see a counselor every other week, joining a divorce group in the next couple weeks, pay all the bills and take care of the home. I've accomplished a lot and gotta start looming at how well I've become a better person and father. Thank you for ur advice.
She definitely doesn't want to be a family again. She said she would never try to make it work.
Im not sure then there's so much that goes into marriage and its not easy and letting go is a lot harder. I don't even know how I would do it after spending all this time with my husband. We are going on 4 years of marriage. We don't have kids yet though so I'm sure that having a child with someone makes it harder. I wish you luck. I know its not easy
Thank you. I try to keep busy and spend time with our daughter
Thank you. Ill listen to it.
Stay strong. It won't be easy but it'll be test of your character and mental strength. You're welcome :-)
Thank you for MHO! :-)Stay the course brother and look after yourself. Take each day as it comes and do everything to the best of your abilities. Don't give up, ever no matter how hard things become.Life's a game they say so if you want to win you have to play no matter what the rules are. Stand strong and believe in yourself that you'll make it... Whatever your destination maybe. Good luck ✌🏽
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If something bad happens to you , its time to UPGRADE YOURSELF TO BETTER VERSION OF YOU NOT TO DOWNGRADE YOURSELF TO LOWER VERSION OF YOU. hope it helps mate. sorry for bad English.
Yeah hope my opinion helps a little bit
Filing afterwards because she said she gave me too many chances. Even tho I've done better that doesn't matter to her. She says im still just selfish.
Giving too many chances makes it sound to me that you guys have been in this place before. Have you "fixed" everything before? She just may not believe it is going to stay fixed.
Everything came to light after she didn't know what her feelings were for a coworker
Ah, gotcha. Sounds like there are things on both sides that need to be worked on and she's shoving the blame off on you. I'm sorry brother. Best thing to do is just have space between the both of you. It will help, but your feelings are never going to go away. My ex-fiance was cheating on me at every turn and I was crushed. I'm still madly in love with her no matter how much I hate her.
I feel ya man. Im sorry for everything you have been thru!
She said i tried too late. By that comment i feel that once she realized she had feelings for her coworker there was no coming back to work on our marriage. I think she feels it will be greener elsewhere. Everything I've done she degraded until everyone else noticed and now she says im just selfish and dont care about her feelings.
some therapists go on there to help in their spare time.
i go there to help sometimes when i have nothing to do :)
Its hard we have a 1 year old child together.
I know there is no magic fix sadly. You will just need to try to learn how to be out of a relationship again and let time heal you. I have had my own heart break recently and I tried to reach back out to be friends but it caused me much much more pain. The best thing you can do for yourself is to let her go and try not to have anything to do with her it. It will be very hard but after awhile you will feel better and independent again and also be ready for soneone new. And when you both are healed maybe be friends again
In my own experience I was trying to reach out so I wouldn't have to be so harsh as to just disappear but after the choice was made trying to make up for what I have done caused serious problems for myself. My best advice is try not to act upon your feelings and let her be around you or anything like that. Honestly after my own experience if I would have just forgot it ever happened I wouldn't still be hurt over it
Thank you. The trying to understand is the hardest thing not to do.
Thank you. Im praying for it to
Thank you for the laugh!