It’s not fair to me that i was loyal the whole time. I don’t know if it’s worth it. It’s not fair he got some on the side, while I was staying committed to him.
Oh honey, nothing is fair. If you feel jaded, I suggest not getting back together. Sounds like it will be toxic.And I agree with you, clearly he shouldn't have done those kinds of things when you were being faithful. Hopefully you know the true extent of what occurred and his intentions behind what he was doing. Most people who cheat are good at lying and are not empthatic to others... Very egocentric.
Cheaters gonna cheat. They just learn to lie better been there caught her several times finally said get the fuck out of my house, go live and mooch off the married guy see what his wife and kids say. Your stuff at my house? What stuff.
The last time I’ve talked to him, he told me about the changes he’s been making in his life. He told me “when I’m in a better place, I hope we can be in each other’s lives again. I don’t want to lose you forever”. But, I find it hard to find his words genuine. He used to say sweet things to me from time to time (usually tell me how he has deep feelings for me, I doesn’t want me to go away, etc - this was before I found out he was cheating, but we would have fights/i’d want time away because i was suspicious). I am afraid to try and trust him again.
Sounds like you got your answer. 👍He should have kept you and cheerished you when you were his.I am a one chance kinda woman too. Once we break up, its done. Shoulda woulda could've... No one fucking cares at that point. Who said there was a round 2 ever?
I just am really upset that he didn’t tell me he had been cheating (he makes it out like he didn’t have a side-chick because they never met, they’d only sext each other). He always told me “if I ever cheated, I would tell you right away). I just am hurt and upset. I’m sure he can change, but then again, he truly didn’t tale 100% responsibility for his cheating. He tried to find loopholes and try and throw my past (with my previous ex) in my face to say i couldn’t judge him for what he did. He’s ridiculous.
Silly girl, why would he tell you? Hence why it's called cheating. If you knew, he wouldn't be cheating.& he sounds quite childish. Not accepting responsibility, not acknowledging his error, & bringing your own history into what he caused. Are you sure he's making changes? Lol. & who is he making them for, him or you? If it's for you, don't plan on it being long term changes. When he gets upset, he may revert back to old habits.
I don’t know. I guess i believed he would tell me if he made a “mistake” even though i don’t think cheating is a mistake. It was a conscious decision he made multiple times. Yeah, I just feel he believes he’s entitled. He told me I stressed him out (all i wanted was a real relationship) and i made him miserable. I didn’t deserve what he did. And no, he won’t ever change. I imagine if we went through another rough patch, he would cheat again. He “started” cheating back in April when I found out he updated his tinder account. I caught him. He then switched the blame on me, made it out like he just did it for fun, and it was a stupid choice he made. Then i lost all trust in him, and he would get upset and mad with me for being insecure/distrusting meanwhile he was grooming the next girl to cheat on me with. Omg he’s a monster. It makes me feel so sad inside.
Yeah all that is pretty hurtful shit. People like him are going to be sad souls. Just don't let it get the best of you cause the next guy may just be the one who will continue to sweep you off your feet & be amazing to you in ways this guy couldn't.I would suggest for you to stop talking to him. He may need some form of acknowledgement from you to excuse his behavior & make him feel better about himself because "he's changing". I would take some time, breathe a bit, & move on. Reflection is great, but dwelling is not. Show him that you are worth it by not letting him be apart of anything you have for yourself in the future.
He did. And when I found out, he left me to pickup the pieces alone. We tried once more to be together, but I couldn’t get over his cheating and he got upset with me and ended it. He told me “you’ll never change on your side. I have been trying to). But, i don’t know. He hurt me a lot. Its so humiliating.
Then enough is enough. You two aren't compatible, so it's time for you to move on in my opinion. It seems difficult, but it isn't. The pain will pass with time. Breathe through it and find things to distract yourself. Don't allow him to take away your happiness. No man is worth that. Good luck.
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