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Alright i will give you my world view on the two choices you have so that you can pick a decision based on who you are.1. Letting go means you filter the world from this evil, you deal with the pain and ultimately make the world a better place by not passing it on. It will be the most hurtful for you, but ultimately better for everyone and you can be super proud when you pull it off and can then really let go.2. Be consumed by the pain and hatred and instead of dealing with it you pass it on. May give you relief on the matter but also burdens your soul, may or may not cause the relief you seek but instead of having the peace you did the right thing you now have the satisfaction of revenge.Ultimately it borrows down to would you rather have personal satisfaction or would you rather to the better choice for the world? That answer you can only give based on who you strive to be.
But I'll take revenge only for him. this way the world will be better. I will teach the bastard a lesson and he will think twice before he will do something like that again in the future
No thats not true in my eyes, its a facade you hold in front of yourself to justify an action you know does harm. In reality you will harm him, shifting him down into a more negative state of being to pass back the harm he did to you. If he then does not pick the positive option he will just pass on that negetivity himself and as a result it stays in circulation causing more victims but you no longer have to deal with the energy as much.If you convert it by overcoming this and letting it go you break the chain making the world a better place.
But he will continue treating girls bad even if I won't interfere
What kind of bad are we talking about here?
Life is a journey... its more than beautiful then you can ever imagine... just go with your future... let him live his fate... Accept what has happened to you... acknowledge it as a lesson and don't judge yourself to be a victim... it's good that you have realised a person is not important in your life... don't do harm to yourself by taking revenge on him... Let go... stay happy...😊😊😊🙂✌
I want to see the world like u do really. But right now I'm very disappointed. Of him me society God. Trust me if I could take a pill and forget all I would
Well , this is how I coped... And forgetting , running away , ignoring or bluffing to yourself that everything is fine is not the way... We do take time to overcome it... it does feel helpless to do nothing and letting the other person smile for his deeds but in the long run your would see for yourself that your choice paid off... Anyway... stay calm... Peace.
I hope you are right Thank you
It's a pleasure 😊🤗
let it gowhat I've learned from anger is that he regrets it when you rise above him and forget about him. and even if he doesn't he's not worth your time! you could spend your time being happy he's finally out of your life and having fun with someone that doesn't treat you like shit. you can not teach him a lesson you were not meant to teach. He may not choose to listen which will just make you frustrated when you can let go and be at peace with yourself!
Let it go and move on. The big problem is that you can take revenge, but if he laughs at you, it will just make you feel worse.Stay in control of your feelings and forget him. He is not worth thinking about!
As I told u last time, your revenge will be to show him, you’re happy, getting more beautiful, successful at work etc... Don’t do anything wrong and then he will make fun of you cause you didn’t move on
How is taking revenge really going to help? to me it's wasting time and effort on a person not worth it. Plus, you are scoping down to their level - is that what you really want to do?
I feel this person wronged me. He fooled me lied to me and abused me for months. should I just let go?
In reality, revenege isn't going to give you the satisifcation you really want. It may make you feel better for a short time frame but it's still going to bother you until you let it go and move on. It's really your choice and no one can make this decision but you. I know being abused is hurtful (I went through it with my 1st husband). I just moved on and forgot about him because holding onto that anger and resentment is only doing you harm.
I’m not so sure revenge isn’t a long-lasting satisfaction Jm!
You will regret any revenge you take down the road of life. Taking revenge on him will feed his ego knowing your so mad because this will show him how much he is still on your mind and that you care so much. Forgiveness is for your "own" peace of mind not his. I jave been here
He knows he still has power over me. He left me for months and then came back to say he doesn't feel sorry for what he did and that he was always good to me and respected me. I don't see any regret or remorse here.
Maybe so, but I am talking couple years down the road. To respect yourself is a great feeling and delete block him completely from your entire life. I have never understood why people let other people walk all over them...
I didn't also before. Trust me I don't understand why I'm so obsessed but I guess the hormones play a role? I don't know
You have to get together with some friends to work something out. Or, ask him about what to do about your feelings. Maybe have him write you an apology, handwritten, and copies for each of your friends.
He said he didn't do anything wrong and won't apologise
Let it go. Two wrongs don't make a right. You need to take the moral high ground. Maybe one day he'll realise how badly he treated you, and he'll regret it. You take revenge, and in his mind he would have been justified.
He will think he was right about me right? that he was right to leave me because I didn't deserve the effort
Your question gave no context to what had happened between the two of you. So, if you get on with your life, one day he may see the person you became and think he should have made the effort. If you take revenge, in your words "fuck his life", he'll forever think less of you and will think he was well shot of you.
The problem is he left me because I was better person. I think he knows he is bad person and wanted to protect me by leaving me alone. Weird situation I know but my conclusion after much thought is this. He left me alone to not hurt me more
So you've come to the opinion that he did you a favour in the long run by leaving. Are you still contemplating some form of revenge?
the best revenge you cn get is showing him you can be sucessful and happy all on your own, acting vengeful only shows him he's still got you (at least your thoughts and mind- which is still a win for him)
So if he knows I hate him this is a win
Not if he knows you hate him but if your spending time plotting revenge, thinking about him basically, and then acting on it that just shows him he's still got you, in a way.
Either way you'll have trust issues for a long time.What ever you decide don't become a bitter person when dealing with other people assuming they will hurt you like this one, but at the same time don't allow anyone to take advantage like that again. It's a fine line.
I don't even have the energy for revenge, let alone holding a grudge against someone. Just let it go, he's not a dictator of your life, so don't leave his memory become one.
Well said as always 😉
Yes, as always. :)
Oh i love revenge! you should update and tell us what he did to you. So we can become TRULY feel your rage :)
Lol okay if the poll decides revenge then I will
dw everyone here is going to telling you to move on.. cos it's the right thing to do.:(
Yes that's what good girls like are supposed to do. I know. But if we all took revenge or publicly tell what our exes did then this world would be better.
wow, pulled the words right out of my mouth. But in this case, I'm just curious to see what you'd do lol..
Dis u take revenge on someone before?
@Marrrya few times... when i was younger.. I still do today sometimes. It's not hardcore stuff or anything (atleast not all). :/
To people who deserved right?
hell yeah!, but repaid several times over... :/
@Marryby the way thinking about revenge is fun (it gives you a pleasure feeling), Most people who do it feel worst or get caught. It's not for everyone. The most GENIUS revenge can only be achieved if you detach our emotions from it, wait and then plan it. You'd want to get them when they least expected it, you must also have a way not have it linked to you. By the time you plot normally people get over it lol. Only a few people can do this revenge with no guilt.also if it's something silly, then just do a petty funny revenge.
Unless you're liam neeson or avenging the death of your family or something, just move on and then you will instantly be happier with yourself. You will feel inner disappointment if you turn to the dark side and dwell in that negativity.
Do anything to look very happy.. fake it till you make it. Your happiness will bring you someone much better and thats a promise
Taking revenge does never turn out well... moving on=winning.
Whatever is begun in anger, ends in shame.---Ben Franklin
Depends on what the revenge is for. More often than not I would say walk away.
move on don't let him have any more power or influence in your life
Let the shit go Mary. You need to grow up. It doesn't matter if he was your first love. Let it go. Move on. Look forward. Not backwards. Told you so many times. Sad.
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Let it go. Doesn't matter what it is.
Let it go, not worth it.
Move on the revenge is for kid's.
Let it go
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