I agree tbh. I've always seen relationships as "a guy sees a girl he would like to have in his life... he tends to be very charismatic and confident at this stage, woos her, earns her trust and shows her that he is genuine, she begins to trust him and they engage in a relationship. He then becomes slightly insecure (maybe fear of not being capable of keeping her interested? I actually don't know, but I do feel like they become a bit more insecure), but I feel that because he showed her from the beginning that she was important, beautiful and he really boosted her ego... it becomes her time to nurture his ego and keep the relationship going.
I feel this is the stage where many relationships fall apart, because if she can't find things that she loves in him besides his constant show of affections, she will lose interest... because he starts to stop the constant showering of romantic gestures. So to me, if a girl is really astute and observes characteristics that she likes in him at the start... it'll help to foster the relationship as she no longer relies solely on his romantic gestures to stay in love, she'll already have moved onto loving his personality, small daily gestures and his honour etc.
@virginbish Exactly... This is part of the reason why I'll never make an attempt at courting a woman. She'll end up loving the things I do for her, not for who I am as a person.
Well tbh... I hate it when a guy courts me if they don't try to get to know me as well. All the romance is nice, but I hate when the guy is on cloud 9 cuz I feel he isn't thinking straight and determining whether I'm a good partner for him as well. It also makes it harder to have a realistic convo and it makes it harder for me to judge whether I like him for what he is. I like romance, but small things, like how attentive he is (and that would be his basic level of attention... not the over the top courtship type of attention). It's nice to gage the baseline levels of things, so that you are setting urself up for failure ahah. Anyway, I just wanted to show u that not all girls like courtship, it's nice and it does make u feel great, but I think it's only nice when you really develop a strong foundation, and the courtship comes as a result of appreciation and real love.
Aren't setting yourself up for failure**
@virginbish I think I'm just gonna let a woman pursue me if she's interested, and if she does nice things for me, I'll return the favor in plenty.
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