We broke up a few weeks ago now and after not taking it well at first I accepted the break up and recently she's been texting and/or calling me everyday to talk about normal stuff in our lives that we always did. I'm confused because our talks are pretty much the same as when we were together but she keeps wanting to establish that we are only friends. I can understand we are best friends and she wants to keep that but it's confusing me because I wasn't the one who broke it off and I want her back and she knows that. Do you all think she is keeping this contact because she does see a future back with me or is there maybe some other reason. She obviously hasn't said anything about getting back together in the future but I have no idea what she might be thinking.
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She's probably seen what life is like without you (to a degree, it's only been a few weeks after all) and she realizes that she doesn't want to continue her life without having you there.
However this doesn't mean she wants you back. I'm sorry to say that, but I have been through something similar and I wish someone had of told me that, it would of saved a lot of heartache.
The thing is, you can be friends with her if you want to, continue how things are going. But are you going to feel better for that? Won't you want her as your girlfriend and not a friend? She isn't stupid, she's made it clear she only wants to be friends...which means that she is being honest with you from day one, so that if you ever turn around to her and say "you led me on" she can say she didn't, because she was upfront about what kind of relationship she was willing to have with you.
What she is doing is in some ways selfish. It's true that she probably does miss you and the relationship that you had however if you are friends with her and still talk about the same things you did when you were together, in her mind nothing has changed. She is still getting what she wants from you, the attention, the texts, the calls. But she isn't willing to commit.
If I were you I would turn down friendship and walk away. I know how much that hurts but I promise you'll be far better off in the long run.1