All of it. Emotional cheating is worse than physical to me. My guy has BEEN cheating on me. With possibly two girls since 2016 and I had no idea till February 2017. Claiming we were in an open relationship, news to me. Im trying to work through the issues but I can't trust him.
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i don't see how people don't think flirting is cheating... making someone think you want to do sh*t with them is just as bad as actually doing it
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Personally, this is where my heart is as well. Even if the other person doesn't respond, your partner does; your partner gets the impression you want to do something with someone else. Shouldn't your partner's feelings come first, before that other person's, when you're talking in a sexual context? Maybe it's just my biased... That's why I get irritated when I hear excuses that cheating is so ...acceptable. Like it's your "right" to shop around. If you wanna shop ...stop dating, imo.
Well he had sex with another girl...we were both having problems with each other and it was something he deeply regrets. And I responded by lashing out, I was depressed, and just a complete horrible person.... But I wanted to be with him so we both tried to make it work. It's been almost a year since it the "situation" had happen, and this month we'll be together for 3 years.
He had sex with another girl? :-( That breaks my heart just hearing about it. You're very strong... I don't think lashing out is a horrible thing in that situation. I'm glad you two could make it work, and that he was really sorry. I wouldn't have been able to forgive him for giving himself to someone else; I would have been heartbroken every time I looked at or thought of him. 3 year anniversary? Congratulations!
As you write in your question cheating and just a wrong behaviour are two things. (Well of course cheating is wrong behaviour). It is inappropriate to flirt with another person, going to a journey is perhaps inappropriate, perhaps not. And of course dreaming of another person touching you, being with you, can be inappropriate too.
Cheating in my eyes starts with intent. If you have to hide someone you met online and sneak off from your SO to message them then something is up cause if that person is just a friend there shouldn't be anything to hide. The whole oral sex isn't cheating is bullshit too
I think that nobody is perfect in a relationship since the relationship emphasize childhood issues. I think the worst about cheating is that it's never initiated by a person who respect the others feelings in general. It comes from a place of chaos
Cheating is everything you didn't agree on with your partner before you did it. If your parner is cool with you flirting for fun with someone else, then it's not cheating.
Any kind of sexual and/or romantic involvement with another person. Now being friends is fine but anything that is like I said SEXUAL or ROMANTIC is cheating
I would take out hanging out of the list as cheating, if the hanging out is in a friendly way. I hate relationships that dont let you have friendships.
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That's a long list, but imma keep my answer short and simple. For me, Cheating is anything you do that you don't want your partner to know about. let me give an example (I'm not sure if you already said this in your list), your partner has lunch with his/her or sex opposite-sex coworker every Saturday. He/she hasn't told you about it nor do you know the coworker. Sounds really sneaking to me that they don't want you to know about the secret lunch dates they have with their coworkers.
lol who voted "hanging out with"? Sorry, but I have some male friends and my boyfriend have some female friends.
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its all cheating! especially if you have to or do any of that bs when your in a relatioinship then obviously its time to end it considering if you truly loved and cared for not to mention were truly committed to your SO then you would not do any of those things nor would you even ever want to... you would be all about them and no other would be able to get the attention that they are being denied of because some selfish pathetic miserable blind... etc..
To me, cheating is pursuing or engaging in sexual conduct with someone outside your relationship without the awareness or approval of your significant other.
Basically anything that you know deep down your partner wouldn’t appreciate or be comfortable with you doing. For example meeting up with someone of interest for a date or entertaining someone who knowingly likes you.
I feel like if you are entertaining someone else or giving someone the same attention as you are giving to me. Then you were cheating. It doesn’t matter if it’s emotionally or physically.
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All of it. Emotional cheating is worse than physical to me. My guy has BEEN cheating on me. With possibly two girls since 2016 and I had no idea till February 2017. Claiming we were in an open relationship, news to me. Im trying to work through the issues but I can't trust him.
i don't see how people don't think flirting is cheating... making someone think you want to do sh*t with them is just as bad as actually doing it
Personally, this is where my heart is as well. Even if the other person doesn't respond, your partner does; your partner gets the impression you want to do something with someone else. Shouldn't your partner's feelings come first, before that other person's, when you're talking in a sexual context? Maybe it's just my biased... That's why I get irritated when I hear excuses that cheating is so ...acceptable. Like it's your "right" to shop around. If you wanna shop ...stop dating, imo.
Secrecy.
As I've been in poly-relationship as well as monogamous my line is drawn at the point a partner feel they need to hide somthing.
All is fine if it's communicated, agreed upon and follows the set of rules you've established in your relationship. Secrecy implies that it doesn't.
Everything that you asked, it's all cheating to me and if my boyfriend did it...which he has...
How did you respond? Was he able to see eye-to-eye with you when you explained how you felt?
Well he had sex with another girl...we were both having problems with each other and it was something he deeply regrets. And I responded by lashing out, I was depressed, and just a complete horrible person.... But I wanted to be with him so we both tried to make it work. It's been almost a year since it the "situation" had happen, and this month we'll be together for 3 years.
He had sex with another girl? :-( That breaks my heart just hearing about it. You're very strong... I don't think lashing out is a horrible thing in that situation. I'm glad you two could make it work, and that he was really sorry. I wouldn't have been able to forgive him for giving himself to someone else; I would have been heartbroken every time I looked at or thought of him. 3 year anniversary? Congratulations!
Its hard to look at him, but I would suffer more with out him. And thank you =)
As you write in your question cheating and just a wrong behaviour are two things. (Well of course cheating is wrong behaviour). It is inappropriate to flirt with another person, going to a journey is perhaps inappropriate, perhaps not. And of course dreaming of another person touching you, being with you, can be inappropriate too.
Cheating in my eyes starts with intent. If you have to hide someone you met online and sneak off from your SO to message them then something is up cause if that person is just a friend there shouldn't be anything to hide. The whole oral sex isn't cheating is bullshit too
I think that nobody is perfect in a relationship since the relationship emphasize childhood issues.
I think the worst about cheating is that it's never initiated by a person who respect the others feelings in general. It comes from a place of chaos
Cheating is everything you didn't agree on with your partner before you did it. If your parner is cool with you flirting for fun with someone else, then it's not cheating.
Any kind of sexual and/or romantic involvement with another person. Now being friends is fine but anything that is like I said SEXUAL or ROMANTIC is cheating
I would take out hanging out of the list as cheating, if the hanging out is in a friendly way. I hate relationships that dont let you have friendships.
That's a long list, but imma keep my answer short and simple. For me, Cheating is anything you do that you don't want your partner to know about. let me give an example (I'm not sure if you already said this in your list), your partner has lunch with his/her or sex opposite-sex coworker every Saturday. He/she hasn't told you about it nor do you know the coworker. Sounds really sneaking to me that they don't want you to know about the secret lunch dates they have with their coworkers.
lol who voted "hanging out with"? Sorry, but I have some male friends and my boyfriend have some female friends.
its all cheating! especially if you have to or do any of that bs when your in a relatioinship then obviously its time to end it considering if you truly loved and cared for not to mention were truly committed to your SO then you would not do any of those things nor would you even ever want to... you would be all about them and no other would be able to get the attention that they are being denied of because some selfish pathetic miserable blind... etc..
To me, cheating is pursuing or engaging in sexual conduct with someone outside your relationship without the awareness or approval of your significant other.
Basically anything that you know deep down your partner wouldn’t appreciate or be comfortable with you doing. For example meeting up with someone of interest for a date or entertaining someone who knowingly likes you.
If you can't tell your partner In my opinion its cheating.
All of the above. Some is more forgivable than others.
I feel like if you are entertaining someone else or giving someone the same attention as you are giving to me. Then you were cheating. It doesn’t matter if it’s emotionally or physically.
To me cheating is doing something that you wouldn't want your significant other to do
For me flirt and flirty messages, kissing, sex