I have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now. We have a good relationship and no real problems exist. We both currently live at home. She said she wants to move out soon and so do I. A friend of mine owns a building and offered me an apartment for real cheap. I couldn't pass this up so I agreed to move in. I thought my girlfriend would be on the same page. She has family problems at home and is always looking to get away from her house and she is always saying she wants to move out. Now that I am moving out I offered her the chance to move in with me. I know it is a big step in a relationship but I feel we are ready. She says she wants to save up money and eventually she will move in. I don't know if she is just saying she wants to eventually move in or is she making an excuse to not move in?
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Well, first off, if you agreed to move into the apartment based on the idea that she would be moving in with you, that's probably a bad idea. That's something that you need to have a conversation with her about beforehand.
No one here can know if she does or doesn't want to move in with you. Maybe she would consider it, but she feels that this was sprung on her too quickly or without you talking to her about it beforehand. Maybe she wants to move out, but isn't ready to move in with you. Maybe she has financial obligations that she won't be able to afford if she moves out of her parents' home. Or maybe she wants to make sure she'll be able to pay her share of the bills before she moves in with you because she doesn't want to be dependent.
The only way to know for sure is to talk to her. Ask her what her concerns are and what she is saving money for.0