Have an opinion?
Hi.You should talk to her regardless of anything. She should explain herself or at least be given the chance to reason against you evidence and you should go into the conversation with the mindset to separate or depending on what she says break up indefinitely. The suggestions to leave and not say anything or just fuck her a lot and then dump her are born from emotion and immaturity. Don't do this to yourself. If you are being cheated on don't provide her with the justification to have cheated in you. I. e " he is an asshole for using me for sex and then just leaving without saying anything, I am glad I cheated in him" that sort of bull.You'll be wanting some of that closure and talking to this person whom has potentially done the ultimate wrong in a relationship is the only way you will get that. If she hasn't then great but still separate for a while until you can both come back to the relationship more invested. If she has then breaking up is the obvious step move on and see this as a life experience. Pit it behind you and find someone in the future that deserves you.(This is all assuming you haven't done something like cheat on her)Out of curiosity what evidence do you have?
There are so many immature comments here that it's just ridiculous. If you know she cheated, then what you do next depends on what you want. If you want her no matter what, then talk to her and work things out.If you can't deal with it at all, then maturely and calmly tell her that you know she is cheating, explain why, and tell her that you just cannot live like that. Then, tell her you are through and you wish her the best and walk away.
"If you want her no matter what, then talk to her and work things out" in other words you are telling this guy to be a pushover and let this girl walk all over him. Would you tell your female friends to do the same if their guy was cheating on them? There is zero justification for what this girl has done. If he respects himself he will walk.
@somewheresomeway... What is your issue? I'm giving him advice based on what he might want. It's not advice for you, and you are no one to decide what he should want any more than I am. Check your ego.
And, yes, I would give my female friends the same advice. It's their life to live and not mine.
Because if he respects himself he won’t do that. She definitely doesn’t respect him. You can’t rationalize cheating. It doesn’t sound like he was overseas for 2 years or something. His insecurities about being lonely might tempt him to “try to work it out”. But she’ll inevitably screw him over again. It’s not like she got on her knees and tearfully confessed what she did. It doesn’t even sound like she did a good job of hiding it from him. He’s got it figured out. She’ll also respect him less because he doesn't have the balls to leave. Leaving her is easier said than done, so I do feel bad for this guy. But he needs to act like an alpha. An alpha wouldn’t put up with that shit. I know I didn’t tolerate it when it was done to me.
I’m saying all of this assuming he knows without a doubt she cheated. He might be extremely paranoid and his imagination is playing games on him. But it sounds like he is certain.
@somewheresomeway "If you don't mind being a cuck, then talk to her and work things out."
"Oh baby I only put my tongue in his mouth because i was soooo shaaad please forgive me I won't do it again. I love you so much that I will give up putting my tongue in other men's mouths! See how sweet I am and how many sacrifices I do for you!"
@wolfcat87 this is good. Don't worry about the replies. It's an individual decision and everyone is different. Asking a friend what they think they should instead of telling them what they should do is the best way to go about it.
@somewheresomeway I don't think you understand what an "alpha" is. There can only be one alpha in the world, and I guarantee you are not it. If you have to try to convince others to act on your own insecurities, then you're only looking out for yourself. You certainly are not caring about him any more than the woman you are attempting to paint badly. If he respects himself, he will make whatever choice he wants to make in spite of your tirades. Also, only omegas go on about the alpha beta system. A true "alpha" wouldn't even need to mention it. Alphas are born and not made, so... It's their de facto setting and not worth even thinking about.
Like I said earlier I doubt he’s going to go through with it. But I had this happen to me once and I got rid of her like a bad habit and never looked back. It was extremely hard at the time but I’m glad I did. But this guy is emotionally vulnerable. The easy and tempting route (and yes fucking “beta” option and I don’t care what you think) would be to “try to work it out”. She has no integrity. You can’t change something like that. I highly disagree you recommended that option.
@englisc bingo. This is the societal feminist brainwashing that makes me want to vomit.Her advice could seductive because this guy is hurting and wants that p*ssy to be his and his only. But you and I know where this is headed if he sticks around.
@somewheresomeway It doesn't matter where it goes, no self-respecting man is gonna stay with a cheating whore. Only a pussy.
@englisc yep. This guy’s need to hear that. Sucks for him but that’s the only way he can man up.
Again, boys, those are your opinions. They are opinions only. I am certainly not a feminists, and I am not the one trying to coerce this man into doing anything. You are. I often find that it's the most bitter and lonely people who try to control the love lives of others. Misery loves company. Perhaps you should both fix your own love lives (or get one) before giving this man advice about anything.
Well I'm engaged to a girl who isn't a cheating whore so I'm neither bitter nor lonely. This is how men think, I wouldn't expect a woman to understand.
@englisc That's pretty sexist. I think more like a man than a woman. When I post online with no attached picture, most people assume I am a white male due to my writing style and stances. That is why 90% of my friends have always been men. XD It's pretty arrogant to assume you somehow speak for the billions of men in this world. Most of them are not mentally like you.
You are giving “opinions” but you keep up the personal attacks/assumptions on us both. You keep trying to discredit me because you are losing a logical argument. I personally think you have some sort of twisted sympathy for the cheating girl. Like somehow she is justified for what she is doing because she’s missing something from her boyfriend. This post isn’t going to do jack, I know that. But I hate seeing young men get faulty advice from women. Really gets under my skin that they are getting brainwashed.
And I have been with a lot of women by the way. But the most darkest/painful times was when I tried “work things out” when a girl was treating me like shit. Hate seeing younger men get misguided into doing the same thing
If saying that men and women think differently is sexist, then yeah I must be sexist. Most guys I know think this way, but then I don't hang out with pussified men. You don't sound much like a man to me.
@somewheresomeway What is the logical argument? I gave him advice to fit any decision he makes. You and your cronies decided to try to badger another person into making whatever decision you would personally make... That's not logical on your end. That's emotional. The exact opposite of logical. Honestly, I don't care what the man does. It is HIS life. NOT YOURS. He has a right to advice that supports HIS wants and needs. NOT YOURS. He has a right to make his own decisions. NOT YOURS. If you cannot comprehend something that simple, then there are quite a few labels that fit your type of behavior and badgering... Controlling being one of many to add to the table. Whatever he decides has absolutely nothign to do with you or me.
Also, no men and women do not think that differently. They only do if they are taught to. XD I don't think you understand basic biology. Males all start off as females in the womb. During development the very small Y chromosome triggers the few changes that make you male which include turning potential ovaries into testicles and turning the potential vagina into a penis. Some babies are born without this transformation completed. Outside of those minor changes, a male is still mostly formed by the much larger X chromosome. That's why so many X-linked changes show up in males. The Y chromosome does not build your body. Therefore, you are just a woman with a few small sex linked changes. So, yes, saying we all think differently is pretty sexist. We may be raised to think differently, but that's nurture and not nature.
Hormones actually make huge differences. They change the way both the body and the brain develops. The idea that we're all the same and that the only reason we think differently is because of the way we're raised comes from nutcases like John Money who was one of the first to put the idea out there - if you really believe that you should google him, the other fucked up things he said (things like if a kid enjoys sex with an adult he sees nothing wrong with it, that he feels that male sexuality is disgusting and that boys should be gelded at birth), and then google the experiment he did with a boy called David Reimer, where he tried to raise him as a girl and was unsuccessful at it no matter how hard he tried because he still acted like a boy anyway - and eventually killed himself because the whole thing fucked with his head so much - and John Money went on to lie and say that it was a success and continued to teach his bullshit theory as fact.
@englisc No, male brains and female brains do not develop differently based on gender hormones. The only difference in development are int he switches that determine sexual attraction. There's the averaged size difference to match body size differences. There's also the slight increase in connection strength for motor skills. It's still just a human brain. The rest of the brain is still a normal human brain... Males and females have the same hormones in different proportions. The hormones may drive behavior, but they do not decide thought. Think of them like drugs. If you take a drug, it does not change who you are.I don't know anything about that nutcase, as you say, who you apparently found time to obsess over and deeply research... Have you seen a therapist about this type of obsessive behavior? Obsessive behaviors, controlling behaviors, these all stem from very deep issues. I do know psychology, medicine, and biology. The sex differences are certainly not what you think.
So let’s say hypothetically this guy tries to “work it out” with his cheating girlfriend. She stays for a while and eventually leaves him out of boredom, desire to be single or to run into the arms of the other guy (s). This guy is left with a broken heart and a damaged self esteem and lowered confidence. People who know the real story (both men and women) will mock him for not being tough enough even though they might on the surface say comforting things just to be polite. Do you really think he should take the chance of that happening? Even risk it all things considered?
@somewheresomeway Take the chance? Let's play the pessimist card you are using. In that case, no one should love and take the chance of heartbreak. Might as well dump that fiancee now. No one should live and take the chance of sickness or pain or suffering of any kind. Oh wait... We all do. Life is a gamble. You clearly have not won this gamble/lottery, yet here you sit dictating how to win to others. That's not your call. You're not psychic either. You don't know his future. You're not even knowledgeable of these people in person. You don't have the first clue. Yet, you try to make knee jerk decisions for a complete stranger... If I start dictating how to live your miserable life to you right now, then are you goign to listen or will you think I'm crazy? If you'd think I'm crazy, then you might want to reevaluate your life choices... or not. I don't care. I have no problem seeing how silly this whole thing is. I'm doing very well in this gamble called life. I say let the man live.
There you go with the personal attacks again. FACT 1: this guy is certain his girlfriend is cheating on him FACT 2: she’s hiding it from him but not well enough for him not to find out. FACT 3: he posted about this on GAG. If he didn’t want advice he wouldn’t come here. I look at those FACTS and give a recommendation. From what he has provided it’s plain as day she doesn’t respect him. You tell me how it’s worked out for you when you try to “work it out” with people who don’t respect you. I sure as hell never worked out for me or anybody I know. I think you are more concerned about BEING right vs WHAT IS RIGHT. This guy would be a complete chump to try to “work it out”. The reason I’m so worked up about this is because it echos a feminist lie that women are attracted to pushovers. Young men are getting brainwashed with this crap. That’s why I’m going out of my way to call this out.
Hormones do make a difference in brain development, it's scientifically proven. For example children exposed to high levels of testosterone in the womb score higher on things like spatial awareness but lower on empathy and slower to develop socially. Most people notice that baby girls develop quicker than baby boys, and other studies show that they're better able to read facial expressions. To say that it doesn't affect the way people think is just plain false. Yeah, I've read about the guy, my girlfriend studies childcare and showed it to me - they were teaching his theories to her as fact too, even though it's clearly not true which I found to be shocking. To claim that because I know this there's something wrong with me, like it's some kind of obsession, is a weak argument - mainly because you don't have a proper one.
@englisc notice how she strays off topic to insult us both she’s got a weak rebuttall.
@somewheresomeway Methinks you do not know what a personal attack is... I'm not attacking you so much as pointing out flaws. I can point out flaws and suggest therapy without attacking you... You have chosen to take my words as an attack due to the nature of your more aggressively pessimistic mindset. I can see why working things out does not seem to work out for you... Your aggressive and controlling personality would obviously never allow that to happen. Other people are capable of working things out. I'm friends with my exes. My exes respect me. No matter what they have done, I don't see a need to control them in order for us to be happy. Every person has a right to be happy in life. Were I to want to control and destroy that happiness, then that demonstrates that I truly never loved them at all. I only loved what they could do for me. My ability to understand the people I care about earns respect. Not running away from problems. Fixing them in the name of real love.
@englisc... Not a single thing you mentioned states that men and women think entirely differently based on those few differences. Those are very specific differences in fact and not overall thought processes which are far more complex. For example, architects and sailors must have special awareness. There are many female architects and sailors. Clearly, the hormones did not prevent the developing of spacial awareness. I have great spacial awareness, and I am certainly a female.
@somewheresomeway I did not actually take us off topic, hon. You did. You mentioned men and women being different, and that generated this whole conversation. Please keep up.
Also, there's nothing really to say that is on topic. I covered it all in my original post... So, everything that's been mentioned since is very irrelevant to this man's problem.
I didn’t say anything about men and women being different. I was actually trying to reason with you to find a common ground but I don’t think that’s going to happen. I wish this poor guy luck and I hope he makes the right decision so he can look back on this incident without regret.
I never said that men and women think entirely differently, there are just some differences. Some men are more empathetic, some women aren't. Some women have great spatial awareness, some men don't. But overall those differences exist and those are exceptions, mostly as a result of hormones especially how much of each the child is exposed to in the womb. It's the reason why for example, even though there are governments giving huge financial incentives to encourage more women to go into engineering and more men into nursing, men still make up over 90% of engineers and women still make up over 90% of nurses in these places. To say that the only differences are based on attraction is false, that's all I'm saying. Even if that were true, then of course men and women look for different things in a partner and prioritise different things in a relationship, and therefore have different views on these kinds of things too even if you consider those differences to be small.
And I quote " Well I'm engaged to a girl who isn't a cheating whore so I'm neither bitter nor lonely. This is how men think, I wouldn't expect a woman to understand."
Quote - "This is the societal feminist brainwashing that makes me want to vomit."Both of you lovely ladies went off topic. XD Oh how your memories fail you...
@englisc no one is going to win this argument. All the cards are out on the table. I just hope the question asker does the right thing and ghosts her cheating ass. It will be tough for him but he’ll ultimately look back and be proud handled this as a self respecting man.
Did I at anytime call you “miserable” “omega” or say you had “daddy issues” or some other judgmental disparaging crap like that? I do believe your opinion about “working it out” reflects on a feministic western ideal that “the woman is never wrong”. I also believe you have some weird misguided sympathy for that cheating bitch since she’s “one of your sisters”. That’s something that’s seriously impacting and harming male self esteem and ultimately frustrating women as well. If this guy abruptly left deep down his ex would respect him more whether she would admit it or not. Same goes for other women he will meet in the future. He needs to be tough.
@somewheresomeway No, but you did viciously attach the character of any man who does not do what you think you should do from your high horse. XD
No I did what you recommended once in a similar situation and I got back with her only to be fucked over again (different girl than what I was talking about earlier). I remember my brother telling me to “ditch that bitch” but instead I tried to “work it out”. I should have listened to him I don’t want to see these younger men making the same mistake I made. It’s tougher for guys to find new relationships and this guy might sacrifice his own self respect to do something stupid.
@somewheresomeway Again, not every situation is the same. Not every woman is the same. Not every man wants what you want. My main issue was not in your advice but in how you presented it. The way you just wrote it was not bad at all. I can see you are trying to help, but also please see that people need to make their own choices. I don't want him playing the what if game the rest of his life because he didn't do things his way. That can eat at a person as well. That's why I put out options.
Sit her down, show her your hand, ask why if you really need to know and just break up with her. You be the mature one in this mess... you will be the one she thinks of when she is with stupid ass immature guys that treats her like shit. She will think back.. what ever happen to that guy.. what a CLASS ACT. And for her... TOO LATE.
I'm really sorry she's cheating on you. It sounds like you still care about her, otherwise you wouldn't be asking this.Personally, it's a serious breach of trust, you don't deserve this- If you were to work this out right now and stay together, it's not giving you time to grow as people, and fore her to get past her actions.I myself, would get evidence- making sure that I got everything in completely above board methods (if it goes sour, nothing can be thrown back at you, you've remained on the higher ground) I would tell her that I know, that I don't want an explanation and that I want her to leave. She may break and want to give you an explanation, she may flip out, but be dignified, be strong, remember you're young and deserve someone who doesn't cheat on you.If you love her and you want it to desperately work out, by all means try, but from situations that I have witnessed, some of which have been truly painful, I would cut ties- If you both grow as people, have time to get over her actions, and her to have time to become someone who doesn't cheat, and you end up together, great. If you don't you move on at a natural pace and you end up with someone who deserves you.
If you know for a certainty, i would just end it without an explanation. But only if you have concrete evidence. Someone who betrays your trust doesn't deserve an explanation. Personally , i just cut people off who betray me. I don't waste my time telling them why i no longer want them in my life
^ this. Fuck their feelings.
@TonyRyanAgain Exactly! Fuck them 👊😠👊😜
Yeah! But not literally, we're too good for that 😎
@TonyRyanAgain Not literally fuck them, but literally cut them off 😈
Either way, the relationship is over. Harsh statement, but it's true. If she actually did cheat because you saw her in the act or some other way, then leave her. That's it for her. Leave her a little notice on the table or something and she'll get the message. A simple "Caught you and now we're no longer together" or something like that. No aggression needed.If however she didn't cheat, you're obviously very distrusting of her, either because she did things that are very questionable or you just can't bring yourself to, and that's another reason to leave her. Whether she deserves it or not, you need to find someone else that you can trust.I wish you goodluck.
If you have actual proof, that you have seen with you own eyes or physical proof in the form of pics or a vid. Than leave, you do not own an explanation for you actions.On the other hand, if you just have a feeling or you have had someone tell you she is cheating. You need to first consider if you can trust the person telling you, you have to be very careful of hearsay rumors and especially when they come from another female. If what you hear is plausible, than you should ask her if she is cheating. You should be able tell, pretty easily if she is being honest or lying to you.I know a few people that went on their feelings that someone was cheating on them, than have it turn out that it was their own insecurity that had them suspecting their partner of cheating.
Ask why the hell did she do that and then leave. I mean, I guess there's the slightest chance she can apologize in a way that makes you reconsider and stay, but I highly doubt that. How do you feel about her cheating on you? Would you still want to try and work things out? For me, cheating it's unforgivable, it's like the number one rule and it's not as if we are all animals and can't control our impulses. I hate some of the excuses, like "I wasn't thinking. It just happened. It was an accident." Ugh. I'm sorry she did that to you but if you've been a good, caring and loving boyfriend you desserve someone who is willing and ready to give you the same things.
That depends on your evidence, if its here say then confront her as if you are certain, provide evidence see how she responds, if its undeniable evidence leave the evidence of her cheating where she will find it and cut all ties. Never stay with a cheater, if you are absolutely certain then leaving her is the only real option, if you are not absolutely certain, find out so that you don't throw away your relationship on something that could be happening rather then what is happening.
Only if you're absolutely without a shadow of a doubt sure she is cheating, ghost her, don't talk to her again. But also expose her cheating to her friends and family so she loses you and the respect of those close to her. Let her feel shit for a long time through their judgement and maybe the pain of her losing her friends too.
The only way to be 200% sure is to have caught her in person or by reading her text. So if one those things happened I would say leave. If they didn't and you just feel she is, make sure you got proof. Follow her if you have too. That way she can't tell you you're imagining things. Good luck and hope in the end you find happiness.😎
Very compecate ans
You need to talk to her, don't just dump her all of a sudden like that, hear her out and make sure she hears you out. Communication is very important in a relationship. If you communicate properly then you can either work through you issues or move forward with your life...
200%? So you would bet 10 years of your life on the fact that you are right? If you are really 200% sure, why the fuck would you ask? WHY THE FUCK WOULD YOU EVER ASK? You know what is true, so act accordingly. If you wanna be a cuck, be a cuck, if not, LEAVE IMMEDIATELY!!! Make it harsh too, hurt her feelings, she deserves it
Set yourself up for leaving, find a place to live, maybe a rebound or a fling to ease the transition.Then say what you wanna say, drop the Mic and bounce or ghost her even. You could always try swinging maybe you're a polygamous couple but you just don't know it yet. Works for Charlie.
Do you have evidence or is it just a strong feeling? Either way, I’d confront her, but if you don’t have proof do it more gently. It won’t help things at all by just leaving. Also, I wish you the best man. Cheating is a really awful thing to have to deal with.
Don't wait for the right moment, just point out you know she's cheating. Don't explain yourself if she asks you how you'd know.I can tell by the way you question, you still love her so you are going to be heartbroken either way, be warned. Don't ask, confront her!Takes guts, but it's the best to know the truth. To say it hard: if she'd really love you she wouldn't cheat on you.I'm sorry bro, take care with handling this.
If you're actually sure then no doubt leave her..Never contact her again and pick up calls or have any conversations..If she can cheat she's prolly a good lier and might be able to manipulate you if you ask for explanations.
If you're certain that she's cheating on you then just leave her and be done with it. If you ask her there's no guarantee that she'll tell you the truth and it might leave you questioning everything and thinking you're in the wrong.
Why not do both. You know what woul really mess her up? If you decided to leave her but choose another attribute that she lacked in to make her aware that she cannot maintain a relationship successfully in all faccets when her attentiona is divided.
This is actually a pretty good idea. The petty person in me agrees. It’s easy for cheaters to think that they’re otherwise perfect and that the ”only” reason their relationship failed is because they cheated (and while that is a perfectly good enough reason to leave someone, in a cheater’s eyes it’s not a big deal). So to put the blame on something else would definitely be a bigger hit to her ego and might make her reevaluate her path.
@lumos How does that make it petty though?Petty would be to go to the guy and tell him to stop bangin your missus.
Well it’s petty in the sense that you’d be attacking another aspect of her just to knock her down a peg. Nothing wrong with that and obviously not the most petty thing you could ever do. Just petty enough :D
@lumos Isn't everyone a tad petty though.
Oh for sure.
@lumos it's kinda cute. Pettiness. little bubba.
Trust me, ask her out right and try talk through it. 1 you have to be sure u can personally forgive and forget, 2 know for definite that you would be able to trust her if any of the answers are no, walk away. It's not nice being cheated on, but in retrospect she ain't committed to you
Unless you need to get something from her place (and even then, bring a friend with you), I would just send her a text breaking up with her and informing her why. Why waste your time talking to her? Start the process of healing ASAP- just dump her.
I’d leave her like if ain’t shit. Just bounce with a smile on your face. She may be the one cheating but I’m sure it won’t feel good for her to just be discarded by you. Throw her ass in the trash like you don’t give a fuck. Fuck that bitch. Lol. Am I a bad person?
No, it's self defense.
Fuck that bitch. I won’t give her the satisfaction!
I think you should leave her no matter what.But before you needs to confront her, throw everything you know on the table, curse her of all the worst names if she try raises her voice, and walk away.Because leave her without explanation she will look for you to know what is happening anyway.
Do this:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N1ytjyXZTHwOr this:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8bkyvVIQS4QOr this:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IxHgJLBNEL8
If you're 200% sure, break it off. I was there. Don't be a sucker like me. Break it off, accept her lies, be hurt for however long it takes you to cope and move on. You're young. Most young females and dudes cheat anyway. Move on
It'll hurt but just leave and tell her at the same time. No chance for her to try to convince you otherwise cause sometimes we want to believe any lie we're told.But most importantly that poison has already been dropped into your relationship true or not, so it's time to get out
Definitely ask her. If she denies it, then not only is she a cheater, but a liar too. I think you should give her the benefit of the doubt though. Have your facts ready. You might be surprised. She may just confess when she knows she's caught, however, I doubt it. But yeah. Ask her and go from there. You know what to do in your heart. If your 200% sure then you know this will be a very hurtful, toxic relationship and you dont deserve that. Good luck 😊
Respect yourself enough to leave. Nobody deserves to be lied to and taken advantage of. It might be hard but just leave. If she asks, tell her you know her secret. And then don't give her the time of day. I'm sorry this happened to you, I know how it feels. Don't worry there are better people out there who will love and respect you for who you are, and value you enough to be faithful to you.
Don't just sit there waiting for her to stop on her own... unless you are 200% sure , she will stop on her own and come back... Respect yourself... Ask her what you think... Hear her out... Then please save yourself and move ahead... Do not quarrel... Talk calmly... Peace😇😇😇😇😇
if you know she is pack her shit put it outside and leave a note saying good luck have fun see you never. Of course change the locks before you do it makes it more fun when they try and unlock the door and none of the keys work
Personally, I think that yes you should confront her about it and then leave her without even giving her a second look. She was the one that was in the big wrong and not you, so she's the one that is missing out on such a great guy like you! Lift your head up high and smile big because you don't need a woman like that. :)
Well, don't leave her just like that, I've known a girl that has two boyfriends that understand one does better than the other. Talk to her about it man. That's how most relationships end, because the dude just lashed out on her or she lashed out on him with no explanations
Definitely break up with her. Also i know it is wrong but you might wanna do the same thing before you actually break up.
Yes!!! I was thinking about it
So cheating is wrong, but it's OK to do it?Bullshit. If cheating makes you a shitty person why allow her to bring him down like that? So utterly childish... Ahh... Just spotted the age.
@Annie_Mosity that’s right their age has everything to do with it.
@Annie_Mosity i said it is wrong but i think when another person cheats you should somehow make them understand it. I meant he might wanna do that if it is the only way to make her understand.
Ain’t nothing like giving someone a taste of their own medicine.
If she's having sex with someone else.. Dump her ass very fast, and don't bother explaining.If she's cheating with words or online cheating, you can try to ask her what went wrong, why she is doing this. And then dump her also
First check yourself if you still love her so much if you do then speak to her about it and ask her to stop and why she's doing that and then start a fresh relationships with her but if you check your self and you don't love her anymore then tell her about what you know and how you feel right now and then you can just leave her and move on with your life ok.
What would you even ask her if you’re 200% sure? I wouldn’t give her the opportunity to lie to your face about it since that’s what she’s been doing the whole time anyway. Just let her know that you know, and then leave.
If you have the proof, I'd just leave. She deserve the time of day or any explanation. If you don't have proof, you should confront her, maybe she'll be honest, either way, if she's not cheating and you break up over made up doubts, that would suck.
If you know for a fact. Ask her for your own closure. I'd want to know how my SO would respond. Pretty defining moment in my opinion. Then leave, nicely.
If what you have with her is mature and important, try to talk to her comely and resolve it. Find out if she is on your level in this relationship. Figure her reasons for doing it. Maybe you did something that pushed her away?
Be sweeter than ever. Wait for her to want to leave you and you make it not easy for you because then she leaves a good guy.
With you? Good. On you? Bad.Talk to her. Sit her down. Start out by saying you have some questions and that if she lies at all in any way the relationship is over.
If he is so sure that she is cheating on him.. The relationship is already over man...
@ammar114 perhaps. But if she is honest completely he might choose to work things out.
Confront her with proof. You want to be very right before pressing such allegations. You said, you are sure but is there a silent "I do not know though?" Think about it.
That is typical, they all cheat. Don't say anything. Get all your stuff out of her place such that she doesn't notice, get yourself another girlfriend started, use her for a couple more rounds, and then disappear.
That might blow up in your face if you start a new girl while you have the other one hanging on. I have seen that end badly for a couple of people.
@mostlyharmful Worked for me. Anyways, it is already blown up, so what can one lose?
Tell her you know what happened and that you wish her well but you're out of here.
Tell her you know what she's been doing and break up with her.
If I tell her or she felt sorry Then what should I have to do 🤔
That's up to you. If you trust that she won't cheat again, nd won't be hurt or reminded by it all the time, give her a chance.If not and u can't carry on, tell her u can't do it and it's not going to work
Why are you sure she is cheating? You should try to talked this threw with her.. check where you both lost track of your relationship and try to give it another go. Take Care
I think you should just leave even if you know the truth ask her if she is honest it's possible to work it out over the admittance to straying, I say an honest girl can get a second chance but if she lies to you then you know what you must do
Have you got evidence? If so, you can tell her you know. If you don't have an evidence, better ask her. Whether you leave or stay is up to you and her answer in both cases. If you think you can trust her to change, stay, if not - leave
If you're very sure, then leave and say nothing at all. that's the best revenge.
Leave her ass, if you let her "explain" she'll just play the victim and cry, if you just up and leave she'll regret it for the rest of her life and learn her lesson
@Wwwyzzerdd thanks 🙌
Its much more fun to confront her and watch her squirm.. whatever way you go make sure and get all your shit back from her before you split... Or you can pull one of my favorite moves and say your HIV positive... don't let on that you know shit about anything... it will get her thinking her whore ass picked it up especially if she's the only one you've been with
Ok im gonna be totally honest all thw people telling you to ask her are ignorant. There is nothing stopping her from lying. If you are truly 100% sure than just dump the bitch.
If, as you say, you are 200% certain she is cheating, why ask her? All that will tell you is if she's a liar as well as a cheater. Just leave her and get on with your life.
Communication is the key to understanding Talk to her and ask her about itAnd if you see that the relationship is not going anywhere just speak to her and tell her that you are breaking up with herThat way you will have nothing to regret
You should let her know that you are aware of the situation and are leaving, regardless of whether she admits to it or not.
Ask her why she is fucking someone else and listen to what she has to say.Be calm. Be rational. Be as a therapist.
Just tell her you are leaving. You know what she's been up to and you want her out of your life.You don't have to ask her why she did it and so on. Just tell her and leave.
If you are absolutely certain, dump her ass. Oh, and make sure the other guy knows she was in a relationship so he knows she's a cheater, if you can, he may have been an innocent participant.
If you knew, why would you need to ask? Obviously you don’t know, so just ask.
Before you do anything you regret gather the proof first then if you find that your girlfriend has in fact been cheating on you, then show her the door and say goodbye! If you find however that she hasn't cheated, then you'll need to work through your possible insecurities.Good luck and may the force be with you! 😆
Ask her about the reason because if you just leave her you're gonna keep asking this from yourself
Ask then leave , but do ensure u leave her if u r confident that she cheated on u. Love without commitment is like quiting smoking and still smoking.
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