Most Helpful Guy
He's holding on to her in case you two take a "break" again. Breaks are stupid. Only half of the relationship ever wants a "break" and the other half is left scared out of their minds that the one wanting a "break" will leave them when they find someone else. If he wanted the break he is keeping that girl as a side piece just in case. If you wanted the break it's his coping mechanism. If you both wanted the break, congratulations. Y'all have found a way to cheat on each other without calling it cheating.
Most Helpful Girl
You need to talk to him about it. Tell him you find it disrespectful to your relationship and you wish he would put an end to it. Even if he is not flirting with her, it seems he is keeping her on the back burner which probably means he doesn't have much faith in your relationship. Or he's the kind of guy who only wants what he can't have. Did he 'chase' you while you were separated? If so, the wanting what he can't have theory is most likely. Also, him deleting the messages sounds like he has something to hide. If he doesn't change it I would put an end to the relationship.
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