I'm not new to dating and I have had far longer relationships than the one that is affecting me so deeply but for some reason I can't get this girl out of my head.
I've known her for around a year and a few months ago we started dating. We always got on well and their has always been an attraction so when something happened I was pretty happy. I think I may have fallen for her harder than she did for me although she made the first move on me.
I really enjoyed spending time with her so you can imagine my disapointment when she moved 3 hours away for college. We expressed our feelings for each other and said we'd both try to maintain a relationship but it just never materialised.
At first I thought I'd be OK with this but now I just can't stop thinking about her and what may have been. I know this is pointless and self destructive but I had such a good vibe about her and I just keep thinking I've wasted the opportunity to be with someone I really cared.
My question is whether I should tell her this or try to move on and meet someone else. I don't know if she feels the same anymore but is it worth getting things off my chest for some sort of closure? She hasn't really made any effort to contact me in the past few weeks and neither have I as I thought I would try the no contact rule so I really don't know if she has already move on. Opinions please? I really just want to stop thinking about her all the time!
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I disagree with RealDeal. Firstly, as a girl, I can tell that maybe she is trying to "test" you (maybe not even consciously) and see if you really meant that and to see if you are reliable. It's an option. I must say, if someone didn't show me he means it after we both say openly and clearly that we want to try to make it work, I would really lose my trust in him. Sadly, we are all scarred to a degree or another (especially from childhood and other relationships), therefore some people do need to be reassured.
At this point, you are not having any contact. You have nothing to lose. And I strongly recommend you to put all your thoughts in order and let her know everything you feel. This world really needs more people that are upfront and not playing games in relationships. If all she needed was to see that your feelings are there to stay, it'll work great. If not, you know that there were no "ifs" involved, all was in the open on your part and there is nothing more you can do. If you don't tell her, you'll always wonder "what if I told her everything?"0