my boyfriend and I are 17, almost 18...about a month ago, I was trying to be someone that I'm not, and he felt like I was leaving him. I realized that I didn't like who I was trying to be, and I changed back to me, but he told me he needed a "break". his older brother went through a similar situation, and he told my boyfriend that he needed to break up with me and be completely cold towards us...he told me that he loves me, and wants to be with me but he "can't" because he was advised not to. nothing bad happened...it was just an unsure awkward month and its not worth risking what we had over it. we were planning on marriage only 2 months ago. we had something special...everyone who knew us saw that. I don't know what to do. he's like a robot taking in everything that he is told to do, I don't know what to do. he wants to be with me, but he is convinced that its just not possible. help!
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In all fairness you changed and that change created a problem in the relationship that made him lose trust. His older brother is right that if a girl changes then it's a waste of time to stay with them because it'll never be the same and the trust is gone anyways. What's the say anther big change won't come again and what pain will come with that? And I'm talking personality changes.
However, if you're really back to the way you were then just keep acting the way you used to and show him. Tell him not to listen only to his brother, but to also give whatever his heart tells him some consideration too. Tell him what you told us, that you were confused about you and realized you liked who you were and are still you. In time he'll find out and if he doesn't, his loss, move on and find someone else.0