That's pretty depressing.
*it is NOT guaranteed to last forever*
Yeah that is pretty sad but it could be true, lots of people change maybe if both believe in working together to eat change it could work?
My parents divorced and they and my brother think a lot like this, which is why they'll never have another successful relationship going into it with a defeatist mentality.My Aunt and Uncle will have been together 38 years this year. Not all love is doomed friends.
@Zefram :( awwww, that’s sucks but yeah u r right not all end up this way, what do u mean by defeatist personality?
"Defeatism is the acceptance of defeat without struggle, often with negative connotations. It can be linked to pessimism in psychology.""It's a way of thinking or behaving that shows that you expect to fail".Basically you don't expect any good possible outcome to ever happen and thus you'd completely forfeit, give it all up, resign. Believing that the negatives and the bad things would ultimately outweigh any and all of the positive and good things.The way I look at it, it's all a gamble with your emotions, you may end up in a successful, happy, satisfying relationship you are content with, or that you won't and you can end up even more depressed and unhappy compared to when you were still single and had you just considered leaving that the way it is.I don't want a family. I don't want a spouse, and I don't want kids. The desire and will just does not exist within me to pursue anybody at all anymore. It just isn't something of any relevance or importance to me at all.
Defeatist Attitude is a lot like Judgement Day's username, so it's no wonder he's depressin. No matter we've seen from those movies, Judgement day is GOING happen no matter what. The franchise says that "the only fate is what we make" but yet we see that time and again judgement day IS the fate. This is a defeatist attitude, going into something with the mentality of "I'm going to fail this" rather than "I'm gonna fucking OWN This shit bro!" or at least "I may do well, I'm gonna try". And if you this with relationships, yes you're gonna fucking fail just ask my immediate family they're all still struggling on that front, only my mother is really having success with her new husband and even then, it's only taken 5 years.But then again as I said, I disagree with everything about that statement that love isn't real and doesn't last sir. I love my girlfriend with all of my heart and every fibre of my being, I dare say I'd be prepared to stab myself in the chest if it saved her life and..
And... that exists sir, you cannot deny that. And as I said and I wil use them again as an examplpe because they just make me so damn happy: My Aunt and Uncle are going on 38 years together now. 38 YEARS. They're both 56 this year, high school sweethearts and never looked back, raised my three beautiful, annoying cousins and still lovin life. So shit happens dude, it just doesn't happen all over everywhere. Because some people just want to throw their dick around, others can't tell lust from love and other just don't give a shit and want to hurt.You Gotta weed through a lot of the dicks first before you find a prince\princess.
@Zefram I've gave up long time ago, over 10 years is the most I can remember. If you thought I was 20 years old then you didn't read my profile. I have existential despair, I find this world, reality, the way it all is, to be completely absurd. We cane into this world and that wasn't something we had a say or choice of the matter, and yet we all will suffer and go through so much troubles and miseries since it's unavoidable either way, well maybe some miserable and bad things can be avoided, but not all of them. And then inevitably we're all gonna be gone some day when our time is up in this world, which is also something we never had a say or a choice for that matter. Because if I had been given a choice or say to never have been born an become involved in this world at all in the first place, I'd probably had chosen that option instead, as I really wished my parents had never met each other in the first place. It's like our existence isn't justified, we may WANT it to be justified
but is it truly justified at all? Did we need to exist at all in the first place? Did we need to be born? To go through a journey we didn't sign up for all just to have have an inevitable end to that journey? Unable to and can't avoid death once we had been created by someone else and added into this world? Are we not fine where we once had been in a state of void and formless and without any consciousness kind of calmness? But that calmness just had to be disturbed by somebody and could not simply be left as it is or left alone as it was. I in the other decided to never disturbed such calmness, and believe I have no need or desire to create someone new and to add them into this world for them to be inevitably subtracted from this same world some day.
I *on the other hand had* decided to never disturbed such calmness...
Most people in general are pretty happy to be born, especially me, and then go on their "journey" I assume to be life that you're speaking of. If I hadn't I wouldn't have met my girlfriend and contrary to your belief love exists because I know I love her. This woman makes my heart beat faster when she looks at me and I can't think straight when I'm not with her because all I want to do is be with her for just another moment and make her smile. I don't need to second guess myself on love. I'm pretty happy to have been born and be able to love my parents for it and I'm pretty happy about the idea of perhaps one day soon being a parent of myself. I don't need a paragraph to justify my life and why I exist and I sure as hell don't need an paragraph to explain why we're all important, even as death closes in (which is generally not something fixes on). If someone is having these issues, that's a problem.I could've given up and started thinking like you when my parents divorced and lost our...
our... home to the bank when I was a boy or when my girlfriend died years ago but no, like a Human, I mourned, I struggled and eventually got back up. Because that's what people do, we keep going. We find reasons to keep going. I am not here just to die someday. I'm here to live a life worth living, dying is just a side effect that will one day come with it. And in the meantime, I'm gonna enjoy what time I have with my family, my girlfriend, my dog, before that time is up, 'cause that what a fucking man does.I don't know WTF is going on, on your end but I would highly suggest consulting your local therapist and/or psychiatrist. Good luck buddy.
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lol what do i know? im trying to learn just like u
GO TO YOUR ROOM YOUR GROUNDED. NO TV NO YOUTUBE NOTHING BUT BOOKS AND A BED. AM GETTING SECOND THOUGHTS ABOUT THE BED
Lol I’m 2 years younger, u r 17, you know anything about love? One more year don’t do this now, you know exactly what it’s like to be a teen
I would say I know about it if you were to compare me to a teenage girl (you) who only obsesses about boys that will only laugh at you in the end . and from your point of view no I don’t know what it is like to be a self centered kid who only loves themselves when boys say hi to them or only feel pretty when she gets likes on intagram . Wow! This describes the majority of teenage girls. by the way am being a little facetious but know it’s true though
Wow, and I don’t know much about you but that’s an awful lot of assuming, for a bitter person who gave me a self centered girl, a lot of attention, congrats you just freely wasted your time 😉
Good comeback dude. I didn’t have to think about you to come up with it. I am not bitter. was not assuming your an average anarican girl. Your perception of the world is so small that when I say average you probably think am talking about your looks
No when u said average I thought u were talking about how I act as every other 15 year old out there, but almost if the 15 year olds I surround myself with are pretty wise. I mean I know love isn’t that kiss on the cheek or the guy who likes u. I know it takes work. I asked this question cause I thought it was kinda different. There’s a group of people who can love others with out loving themselves and I kinda want to know how that works. And probably others who have opinions on this. I just started to recently believe at least in the part we area of love that if I went into a relationship not loving myself I would just be worried about the attention he’s giving me. I would be in love with his attention and not want him to be happy. That’s at least what I thought. I know I’m still learning but we all are even 80 year olds, I just wanted to see others opinions
I’m sorry if I came off as ingorant and insensitive the reason why it look like that was because I was semi trolling and trying to help a little too. I don’t think wise would be a great word to describe 15 year olds even if they tell you things that you think you don’t know you already know it. if you don’t mind me asking why are you so interested in it?
I just recently realized that I didn’t like the person themselves sometimes I liked their attention, and I was too dependent on him for my self worth. thinking he must’ve not like me if he didn’t text back or other things when I really should have been focused on spending time with him n not worrying if I get rejected. He will tell me if he’s not interested any more and that if I liked him then it wouldn’t feel like a waste of time if he said it wasn’t going to work any more
why Would you be in a relationship that you thought was going to end by the other? I ones felt the same way I was fixated not on the person but the position that they filled it’s so difficult to let go in a relationship knowing that the person could change their mind a just leave you. long story short I knew this girl when I was around 12 around 13 my father died I became fixated with her to try to suppress my fathers death fast forward like 15 or 16 I saw her and a lot of immotions flooded then 2or3 months got her number started texting her and realized that I was not I love with her but I unconsciously put her on a pedestal completely disassociated the actual person and form my own Ashley. . am sorry if that did not connect with yours
what do you mean by the other? thats ok :) it was nice to know another perspective too! i dont know if im going in the same direction as you. Is it ok if you help me figure this out? I dated and broke up guy that i still have feelings for. I dont know if im putting him on a pedistal but i did put my self worth on him.
The other person. I will help you but I have to say something first. A lot of times we have problems that we are not aware of and sometimes they come out in the simplest ways. how much you think your parents interactions with Each other affects you?
i mean they do effect my beliefs, such as if i see something and it seems logical to do then i usually build off of that
i would say it is not a good idea to get involved with someone romantically at your age because your not a person as yet and when 2 person are not full developed bad things usually happen. Do you agree? Really thing about (reason I said think about it is because I want you to think critically)
yeah i mean thinking about it, no one is really fully developed in any stage of life. We all still have weaknesses and are still learning the other side to things. being honest i want to agree but this type of topic confuses me because i dont know where you are coming from or if im going to feel this way at your age. Its hard to put myself in these shoes when i dont know. when bad things usually happen i take it as something to learn from. I did some things but i learned from them and i formed more of an opinion on it
These are not my opinion on the topic I just want to know yours first. what is a relationship? Why do teens why do teens feel the need to be in one? . Around 24 in a scientific perspective but the truth is that stuff like your personality is always evolving. I think your perception of the world is imoveable and moveable , am going to talk about that later but that a little bit more Philosophical and also psychologal 20 century though
Do u know about Buddha
yeah actually my family is Buddhist but we are kinda really atheist. im actually working on that myself. Not feeling the need to be in a relationship, thats why im single right now. Its kinda weird i just always wanted that person who knows me for a long time and is really my friend before my partner to work with me just through life. I mean it is kinda human psychology i guess, its been engraved since i was like in kinder. its kinda sad i need another thing in life other than a partner, i just dont know what i want to do yet. also another reason why i decided to take a break and stay single for a while
Working on what been atheist? It is impossible to be an antheist if you want proof look at siddhartha as he died buddhamism had a split the culprit for that spilt was personality and some other stuff. half was fixated on his last words interpreting it in an almost selfshish introverted way the other is a lot more Liberal. What type are you? I think my favorite is probably zen.
i meant working on being ok single, but if you really want to get into religion, buddha was trying to find peace and serenity. Its not the last words that matter its the words he's said through out his life for me. I mean i wouldn't call it a religion as more of a way of life. He was really trying to find out a way to live life in happiness. But i believe we need pain in order to interact, we can not be happy unless there is sadness. Plus id rather not follow a rule book in how im suppose to act, rather do what i believe in, kinda the thought of a scientist, doubt everything until proven wrong
Yeah but not only happiness he was trying to die. Yes suffering is important but he believed the reason we suffer is because we are so focused on the self. That is the same thing that Hinduism believed also. You know anything about Zarathustra?
I’ve heard of him
when I need to think about something I usually write a Dialog or an essay I think it would be good if you do the same. u could make the topic about relationship and love different types of love. In the dialogue the 2 persons should have opposing views so that you can develope your believes
The reason I want you to write is because that is when we think.
oh lol i do that too! i dont write essays i do more like poems or descriptive imagery what have you written about recently?
The main thing I write about my life. What am currently doing is a Dialoge taking about rules that I think then should follow I think one of the rules have to do about dreams , myths love and death one of the reason why I was writing it is because of everything that teens go through. And my favorite one that am writing i actually kinda stole the story from Zarathustra , Voltaire and neizche it is also based on the girls I have liked in the pass I tried to make it as funny and symbolic as possible.
What do you write about?
The last thing I wrote about was my dog
That’s pretty cool! Well actually I wrote about the first time I felt pretty
When was that?
I think it was around the end of February
What sparked it?
Tbh it was the first time my ex saw me naked... yeah he whispered “pretty” under his breathe n he actually sounded geniune
Do you still feel pretty? . i think almost everyone needs external acceptance to live in this world. It’s like the external being converted to internal, that is what gives people self confidence not what they think, what the collective thinks after that is converted to the internal then you make fun of the ones you are in the same position you were in because you now have this false radical perception of the internal Illuminating the external which is impossible..
Hmmm I think I get what u r saying, sorry, could u explain the past part again? I think I look decent I still feel pretty 😊
How do you feel that being naked 3000 or even 2000 years ago wasn’t really intimate but is not
What did you understand from it? Every thing that we believe in is in a house That is supervised by time and space , we are like kids growing up in that house, our perception of reality is constantly morphing. being naked wasn’t always associated with modern day meaning of the word how do u feel about that? . House -world , house keeper -time and space. Kids —humans. Wyd
wow that is interesting, it used to never be intimate now it is, lol right now being honest im on break before a class
Even marriage and a female being a virgin was considered disgusting because the guy did not want blood to be shed in his tribe but they realized that virgins were better because they were more loyal. How was school?
thats true, but its now nice to have it that way since... you know you can avoid it instead of being a virgin and you know staying a virgin, school was ok
I have no idea what you mean in the first part. What did u learn at school?
In the first part I meant that most I think it’s better that we think that way even though people shouldn’t think about it differently, like how vthey didn’t want virgins cause they didn’t want bloodshed, but sometimes the virgin can’t control that, Latin, art and world history today, what did u learn today?
Back in those times they hated but also loved the female body. Chinese philosophy but I didn’t go to school. Cool do u know how to speak Latin? I was thinking about learning another language but am not sure which one. How many do u speak?
well i used to learn Spanish but, i only really know how to speak latin
those facts are really interesting, where did you learn them?
Baal and Ishtar told me jk those are gods by the way. jk books. It’s not facts it’s their interpretation of the world. Have you ever realize we are not happy all the time we are just not depress if we were happy all the time the happy would become on happy because we would have adapted to it we are only happy for a short amount of time.. so what makes you happy? What’s your name dude mine is ken by the way
Lol actually I did realize that, we have to be sad to be happy, cause if we were happy all the time then we weren’t really happy, kinda goes with a lot of stuff too😆 tho it’s sad, lol my name is ericka
What makes you happy?
I think it is impossible to be fully happy without worrying or fearing the future outcome. I think you can only be happy when you think about the past because to a certain extent it is transparent the only thing that can destroy your past is a false perception of the past being transparent. What I mean by transparent I mean truth nothing lurking in the shawdow. But I still want to know what makes you happy
Why are you on this website? I came on here because I thought it was like google the truth is that I don’t that any friends (my dad constantly banged be about education and I have very high intallutal eargies ) the only time I leave my house is to go to school which I hate because everything is easy. I stayed because I thought I could help people with real problems I think I helped one she was a girl she was raped when younger and she told her boyfriend he did nothing then I realized the majority of people on this website are insecure I was planning to just quit because I was getting a little bit addicted but I was going to troll alittle bit first then that’s when I saw u , then today I realize that I am really frickin attadicted then I realized that the abyss was fully illuminated because I started to go on YouTube more today and am saying to myself your just going to stop texting in a month so does it make any sense. by the way I saved a dog
i guess thats true, but being anxious and worrying is also pretty bad, things that make me happy are beating a knew record in running, playing piano, singing, and hanging out with friendsoh well i origninally came here when i was 12 for boy advice and left when i was about 13 or 14 and came back close to before 15, how did you save a dog? lol can i follow you on youtube?
I deleted that my what’s app I saved her from her absive owner YouTube keinlxoand JDog. tbh I thought you were going to stop talking to me and what made it worse my mind won’t shut off so I started to write
It was a dialogue and In there a question came up on how do u get over when someone says something bad to u so I kinda used Zen Buddhism to say it as simple as I can he doesn’t hear negativity that is the same thing that happens in zen buddhaism when u give up logic u reach a higher level of it. i don’t think i can bring this dog in the house because the one that i currently have is like the Old Testament god when it comes on to other dogs.
ericka are u good at everything. U know how speak Latin play the piano and run save some for me.. do U weight train? I love doing it it really makes me happy. Wish I had a volin and a piano but if I get it am probably going to quit , but what I really Love to do is think and write and read am not sure if this is true but I read one time that Socrates stood for like the entire day thinking about something
Yeah me tooHmmm I guess that makes a little sense, how do you abandon logic though? And is it really going to help u?Hmmm weight train? But that’s cool! U never know if u want to commit to it until you try! I wanted to do violen too, but I actually found violen easier
reason proceeds within structured perimeters. Outside those perimeters the koan is not inconsistent; it has its own logic, . Once the mental barrier has been broken, it becomes intelligiblue. The koan is the paradoxical question the manster asked the student sometimes he beats the shit out of him unit he realizes that logic is small when he becomes conscious of this he reaches a state of super consciousness but he returns because there is still people that needs help..
I just realized something I think the majority of kids are bisexual if you look at the circumference of almost all of there conversation there is definitely a homoetoic component to it. Yeah it would help me.
What do u do in a day A part of the reason am doing it too is because they are my friends which is kinda funny if u think about it can’t write it it will be too confusing. Weight training is great if your not fixated on your appearance.
Wow! That’s a good way of looking at it, are you Buddhist?I think they could be that way because maybe society is changing to where it’s ok to be this way and sometimes we like one, the other, or both? And when we start out we don’t know. I kinda want to experiment though, I really like both. What would help u🤔?
I would have to say am a Christian but I don’t think that I would be allowed at church because I also believe in order gods also when I say believe it is not really what u think. u know that in Greece there was alllllooot of pediophiles. My family is conservative am pretty such if my mom knew I was gay she would kill me ok maybe not really kill me
That is called a Freudian slip by the way (basically when your unconscious desires reveals themselves in your writings or when your talking) am sorry I just like saying something informative. when i was younger i had unconscious homoertoic desires but my ego was so against it it became repressed i still do. by the way THIS FRICKIN SCREAMS SIGMUND FRUED
The ego is like a filter it takes out what is not acceptable in your eyes or societies if it is not acceptable it gets repressed and then resistance keeps it from coming out.
It’s think it’s impossible to become a Buddhist if you don’t have a teacher. Buddhism doesn’t work that way. by the way am I breaking the texting law? If u text someone 4 consecutive times what does that make u sorry if I don’t know am not use to texting
oh wow, how do you deal with that?lol i love when that happens it helps me clear my thoughts and find out what i really wanti kinda dont want to filter and supress many things, how do you get over it?
lol I don't know what that makes you, you are fine, lol im drowning in boredom, procrastination, and lonelyness anyway😂
so its nice to talk to you, you help me with getting rid of two of those things, im still procrastinating😂, lol im going to start working
My false perception of love for boys is due to the fact that I was a victim of a sexual assault by my cousin. I think I was around 6 and he was 12 it happened more than ones I can remember one time feeling incredible subsmissive when he was beside me one time he was going to kiss me one time that’s when I told him to stop that’s the only time i remember . I should be sleeping your the reason am not your so busy in the day? .
U have to tell me something about u now
Why do u take so long to answer GOD
woah... wait what happened to your cousin?sorry, i got into an argument
What do u mean? . My mom knows am not sure how much though I told my doctor
I think he was eiethdr 12 13 or 14
ok, as long as you are ok👍, lol why are you staying up this late?
That’s why am attracted to psychology ok want to help people who this stuff has happened to. Don’t worry am an intellectual lol.
lol me too! is that what you are interested in doing as a job in the future?
When he lefted my psyche repressed everything that was sexual and ooo it definitely attacked me unconsciouly
:( its good that you can talk about it
I can talk about it more if you like cause I can’t sleep
oh that sucks! have u tried the breathing activity for sleeping? count in for 7 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, and let go for 8 seconds
What lol. That’s impossible for someone like me I would have to write it use to happen when I was younger am creative my mind won’t shut off.
U have to tell me something about u
A 100 years ago something that frued really Shed light on was transference when the patient perceives you as a different person example when you are taking to a older male and u kinda feel like he is taking the role of your father. I probably shouldn’t say this but I think I have a religious crush on you . please don’t deconstruct what I say and form your own interpretation. or u could I don't know
Men would be a fallacy:if it wasn’t for men. What do I mean
Lol I think you could still write tho!Lol ok im really afraid of shielding and reflecting lessons to be learned because I want to be a person who does learn and does keep going not one that stands there and acts like a victim all the timeLol ayyyee I mean its fine you are an older person who can inspire me and has taught me some stuff so I get it lolLol I don't know what you mean, what do you think u mean? We would just be a thought if it weren’t that we actually exist?
Write what? am like the frued to your jung. its a psychology joke. think of it as your home work find out what it means you need to read the first part of the Bible and it’s in Hinduism and Zarathustraism
A good way of not deflecting the bad or the good is to analyze them, you’re handling the problems you can at this moment, when your’re Older you will become conscious of the others.
Next homework the psychologal signifance of siddhas journey to enlightenment.
good luck with your homework! i have a 17 year old friend who takes AP psychology at my school too!very true, i still need to learn how to handle everything.good night
No actually that was your homework I already know it
lol i dont take psycology though
Buddha and the Bible is important in 19 century psychology that’s why I know a lot about myths. What is ap. Do the homework
U said u wanted to become one. Don’t be stubborn just do it
U told me that u guys practice Buddhism
It’s not difficult u just need to know how he became Buddha and the psychologal struggle between him and Mara. Dude it’s easy
fine Don’t do it. i just wanted to u know more about it so we could talk about it. dont u have a burning desire to know everything
i mean if they dont offer the class i can learn about it through looking at things online. but i can't have it as a class unless i go to an actual physical class out of this. I mean my family considers themselves "buddhist" but i dont know much about it, well i mean i agree with buddha on some points, but i want to be very rooted in my faith so i dont really konw what i want to do
What do you mean you want to be rooted in your faith and u don’t know what to do. Tell me something about you
Why u sleep so late
Well I mean I haven’t found anything that has convinced me to believe yet and if I want a religion I need to be fully sure. Lol cause I procrastinate😂
tell me soemthing about u i have said this like 10000000 times
it doesn't work like that myths are like different types of strings that strench beyound time and space and sre still congruent do not be arrogant young one your only 12 men had been beleaving in the devine more than 15000 years myths are the manifestiion of humans empath (budha and confucious), creativity , Patriotism (zarathustrism) and our veneration of woman (Ishtar , the mythological origin of crete and aphrodite )... tell me something about you
Good night dude
Dude follow me. am too great to not be followed
Lol ok I’ll follow u😂
R u Tonga?
Dude u told me u were 15 . You lied Ahriman is going to torture u in hell (Zoroastrianism devil
... no when i got on here i was 12, so i lied and said i was 13, now i dont know how to fix it
now im 15... 3 years later XD
Do u want to tell me about your ex (because I can atually help) because it looked like it’s a big deal to u?
Don’t use what am going to say to not answer the first thing that I said. Go on www.truity.com It has the big 5 personality text. But the most important one in your chase is agreeableness it’s a female trait.
Why did u guy break up if your in love? Let me guess jealousy? Didn’t feel anything for each other anymore or it was starting to dissipate? Cheated? Parents? . new location?
Unrelated.. but u and "star star" just gave me a thousand notifications and i couldn't say anything because she blocked me. Thanks for finally ending it. Girl needs a sense of humor.
Yo foreal bro, like I was tryna balance it, but like she took it too far bro. It's all good bro. Have an amazing day yeah.
It's unrelated so it's all good. But again like I said, 100%