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I would not really care if they were a nasty aunt or cousin. No way in hell though would I be able to live peacefully if I ever fought with my parents/grandparents/children to the point of no return. That would hurt me like hell. With that being said, sometimes, because they are family, you can't always hold a grudge/be mad forever, so there is always the possibility that you may become a part of their lives again. However, once you break up with someone, there is a chance you get back together, but unlikely, especially after you find out they have a new wife and a cute baby girl. So to me, breaking up with a man I really love would crush my soul. In the case of friends, eh, I don't really care. I don't have many people I can call "friend." I've been betrayed enough by my "friends," so I like to think of friends as easily exchangeable.
The worst would be with a Best Friend, taking into consideration you have known each other for many years and maybe since childhood.A family member is not that different from a best friend according to what I have mentioned.We are closer to our best friends than family members.Am not talking about breaking up with your parents here, just talking about a distant family member or sibling.Options A and C in my own honest opinion are close as situations.Thank you for sharing this interesting question with us dear Anonymous!Cheers!!!
"D" Which for Me... Leaving a Spouse behind in another Country, Never to Hold them Again, friend. xxoo
Depends how its dissolving. It also depends who the family member is. Maybe even what else is going on in my life (good or bad). I've had best friends move, and no contact. That has happened enough to say, well, it isn't fun, but... I'm used to it. One of my supposed closer pals lately has decided to kind of put me off. I wouldn't say that contacting someone twice a year means close friendship, which I'm thinking he'd drop to once or twice a year... and if I moved away, I get the feeling he wouldn't bother at all. But it's tougher because a lot of guy friends are so obsessed with their relationships that they're dropping a lot of their single friends. so I'm doing a lot less socially. A lot of groups I've been a member of have disbanded (their choice, not mine). Breaking up with an SO, I think, would be the toughest... though having virtually no experience with a long time girlfriend or wife, I have no idea how it would be. My relationships haven't lasted past a few months. I think that being used to someone every day, and then within a few months, they're gone, would probably be the worst for me, but I'd have to have the relationship first to know how I react. Dropping a relationship with a family member - I've done this with several; there's one more I'd like to do this with. Their behavior has been toxic, and I don't need them in my life. Usually, it's been pretty easy overall for different reasons. Either they lived far away to see them much, or I got the idea to watch them like a hawk and never get too close... whatever it was. So not having them in my life is not that big a deal to me right now.
I feel like if it was dissolving with a family member that no matter what they’re going to be stuck in your life and you will eventually work it out. As for a significant other when it’s dissolving and it’s finished it’s kind of like an end that doesn’t come back unless you remain very good friends and that’s very rare. / dissolving friendship if you’re in the same circle it could eventually get fixed or I mean with Facebook you can always like really get in touch with each other again and maybe make up. But also you may realize it wasn’t good at all.I’ve had all three of these type of dissolving relationships and still today I feel that the one that got me more down was the significant other. We are still in touch but it was not good on our health for long time but it was the right decision.
if i had a breakup with my significant other, i won't go through depession, like he found me, many else will, the world won't stop on him. having a breakup with a family member is gonna be hard, but there are many members in your family who are gonna help u plus it is a family member so techincally part of u. but having a breakup with your best friend is sometging huge, no one understands me like she does, wr have been bestied for 9 years, we have been through light and dark together, whenever i fell bad or cry for a reason she makes feel better and we end up laughing, if i lost her, it isn't easy to find someone like her and u probably never will
I’ve experienced the friendships, the family and I am currently experiencing the SO and it’s way more difficult. Family is given to you by birth, sometimes we don’t get along with family and It diesnt really matter whether or not you have a relationship with a family member. Friends come and go... a SO is someone that specifically chose to be in your life and you trusted and became accustomed to having them around and grew to love them as a person. It’s so weird how we choose a stranger to be such a prominent important part of our lives. They become that real family because it’s someone’s that you handpicked to be a member of your family and not someone that you just happened to be related to. I find that to be the hardest because it’s someone you gave yourself to and had high hopes for. You shared dreams and had all these plans and then you have to figure out if you’ll remain friends or just become strangers... I don't know to me that’s the hardest
I don't really have friends. There are a few but friendships seen to always Dow and change anyway.Family id only dissolve the relationship of they deserved it and if they deserved it why would it be upsetting. I've walked away and never even thought about them to be honest.The so is probably the hardest as it's the most noticeable change in your life. If your going from surrendering every free second with someone to be alone on those times. However that greatly depends on what kind of relationship you had. I've always lived with my partner's so there's a lot of inconvenience and empty time.
Definitely with an SO/spouse, A: Because she's my first and she's also the only real girlfriend I've had since I was 14 and B: I've already dissolved a familial relationship before and it's pretty easy if the family wasn't that strong to begin with. Blood doesn't dictate love.
It doeant but it probably should.
@Tomblebee Only to an extent. It's normal to hate family every now and then and have conflict. But when your familial relationship starts to deteriorate to the point of toxicity and resentment, it maybe time to change things. I'm a child of divorce, after that I never wanted to give up on anyone or anything. But sometimes we just have to face the hard truths in life and one of those truths is sometimes things/people are just too far gone to save. Only a given person can decide when that is for them.
Wow... yeah true. :(
@Tomblebee I'd hate to see a sad face there. There's nothing sad about it. I mean, there is, but there isn't.I've met at least two women and two men (one of each whom I'm still in contact with regularly and good friends with) who have been better parents to me since my teens than my real parents. But then I'll always love my parents, just they weren't ready to be parents yet. Maybe someday they will. And when they will I'll still be a son. Part of growing up is learning to make hard decisions and live with them and find the good in them afterwards. We're all the sum of our own life choices, whether good or bad, they don't make us good or bad people, what we do afterwards and how we act on them are what define character and give us growth and there's a silver lining to every bad and good decision that's made because a person's character grows for better or worse regardless after each one.I like to be an optimist. Life's easier that way.
You should be a life coach or something. What are you?
@Tomblebee Currently I work as a cook going into my third year University as an English Major. I'd like to be an author. But thank you. I just always see it as being a lot easier to fall into despair and be a dick in life, it's harder to be an actual good and nice person, probably why a lot shy away from doing the right thing but doing the right thing is just... better.
What you gonna right about?
Write*Too busy thinking about doing the RIGHT thing.. and righteousness.. not sure if that works in context but whatevs..
@Tomblebee Lol, sure, mind racing.Mostly sci--fi and thrillers. Some drama. Nothing for kids.I plan on self-publishing my first book soon if I ever get around to finishing it, almost done.
I wrote a sci-fi when I was 10 around a hundy pages of pure genius waffle.
@Tomblebee Right on, not many can do a hundred at even 18. A lot of people have the talent for it, less tend to have the persistence.
It was real clever.. but i did have big writting.. the lines were quite big and i illustrated/ drew diagrams? throughout.. But then... made the worst decision to begin a sequel.. letus just say that twas a bad judgement.
@Tomblebee Ah we lve and we learn. The best thing about making mistsakes is we get to learn and correct them.
correcting the decision to write a sequel... hm?
@Tomblebee Perhaps. If it's not needed.
I actually don't know... i never had a 'break up' in friendship only friendship that faded away when we had less contact. So it wasn't bad because you don't really realise it until you look back.Relationship is bad at the start but after a short period of time I recover. Family that's an interesting one, I never had any break down in family relationship either, I either like you from the start or hated you and it won't change
I'm not as close to my family members as I probably should be and do see breakups with partners as a part of life.Therefore, for me losing my best friend would be the worst. I know her since we both were 11 years old and if I'd lose her I'd lose a big part of myself.
I think it would be a family member because I do believe in blood is thicker than water. My family is first in everything from the moment I was born to moments I had problems and had success. I acquired friends and a partner and all those relationships after my family. And I've always thought that family will always be permanent to anyone, if not all. To lose that permanent relationship would be a void difficult but not impossible to fill in. Still, that will hurt the most.
Interesting split between men and women. Women see the spouse as the easiest to split from (so did I)... Odd that the guys don't, but then women do seem to have more intimate and lasting long friendships. I'd be utterly distraught if I had to split from my friends. Of course I love my guy but the possibility has always been there that we might not make it all the way together, we're human. I suppose it doesn't occur that it's a risk when it's a friendship.
You have to take risks in relationships but don't trust more on any guy
@Arun66 Sorry, didn't get what you were saying there.
I have had relationships with best friends and family members end and they were both devastating but a marriage is like a combination of both you lose your bestfriend and family member which is why i haven't let my marriage end and there have been plenty of times I've wanted to but you build to much together.
I'd have to say family. I've known my family my whole life and they have supported me and guided me through everything. If something was to happen between me and a family member, I would lose part of that love and support, it would make me feel horrible!
I honestly have no idea. A break up with an SO is hard, cause it's very noticeable. With a best friend it's hard, because you've basically shared your life with them. And family is the ones you can always count on, your blood. I've lost family, best friend and an SO, but there was a huge difference on the impact each of them had on me, but they were probably equally bad.
To me the worst one would be to dissolve a friendship with a friend because to me friendships are supposed to be forever I'm not a fair-weather friend so if I give you the title of being my friend I take it very seriously I didn't choose family because you don't get to choose family is going to be your family no matter what
I only say friend because the few family members I am close with its an unconditional love and that would never happen but friends are hard to come by and your close family will always be there through thick and thin its tough to find and keep a good friend.
Significant other - I'll get over it. Family - depends who, if immediate family, then that's gonna be the hardest. Best friend - I went through this last year and it FLIPPING HURT like 5 stages of grief and everything, it felt like someone close to me had died so, so far that's the main one...
Even when i lost one of my best friends (small friendcircle where everyone is eachothers best friend kinda) my family was alwasy there for me and always will be. The one time i felt like i betrayed my father i burst into tears from the thaught alone. I love them more then anything in the world and cannot even start to think what i would do without them
Spouse would be rough... really rough I think divorce is the #1 cause of suicide in men. Family... depends on who it is.. if it's ny mother brothers or father yea.. thats devastating much more than a spouse. But like a cousin or something? I already don't get along with half my extender family.
For me its because the feeling I get when it is over with my girlfriend sucks to the point were I can't eat , can't sleep , or stay focused on anything less important then the relationship I had but that means i was in love right
Thats what happened to me when he asked me out...
Depends on how much I cared for them and the state of the relationship afterward.If I can't breakup with someone and still be their friend then that's not to bad. I value their company and I still have them in my life.If I care a lot about them and value their presence in my life and they break all contact all of a sudden then I think that hurts the most regardless of the specifics of the relationship.
I chose my best friend and who says it can't be both my best friend and SO in the same person... You can't choose family, plus it also depends on how close you are to your family member.
Fights with close friends are the worst for me. Losing an SO is almost as bad, but the family thing doesn't seem so terrible. I have never been close with my family though.
Family been there done that and family are hard to let go so many ties I am still having trust issues after the last family member that cut ties
My best friend means a lot to me even though we actually met in July of 2017. We knew each other in like 2012? and we had fun together but never saw her after that. Until know.
My family would be hard on me too
Personally dissolving a relationship with ur best friend is the worst!! I mean who else are u gonna vent to and take care of you..
Family member. The other two have already happened, it was for the best
I’ve ended relationships with family and best friends over the years which were hard but for me, it’d be more difficult to end a relationship with my guy because I know that he’s the one. I don’t ever want him and I to ever split up!
Dissolving a relationship with your significant other/spouse
Well I've dissolved many Relationships with SOs', also have dissolved family Relationships, but my life long bff of 41 years, that would kill me.
Consider you likely dodged a huge bullet. Never regret the dissolution of a relationship, any of them. There's a reason it happens. Just go with it, you can't fix it anyway.
Friends come and go for me.Only had one relationship and I guess it would classify as the worst because she attacked me.Lost a few family so far and honestly none of them hit me hard at all.
My buddy I let live with me some how gotta bunch of cash stole my girlfriend n moved out the few month later he's dead karma works it was funny they both got on drugs money changes people I dont do anything guess I was boring lmao
With a bunch of feelings and emotions secrets and what not that even close family doesn't know intermingled over the years not to mention if there's kids involved. All the shared memories its hard walking away from all that.
Because my lovely heart will break and I will be emotionally devastated to which I lost the love of my life and I don't wanna be single anymore! I'm traumatized about this! I wanna be with someone and I need someone in my DAMN life!
Dissolving a relationship with a family memberI can't imagine not being in speaking terms with my brother.
I'd say my bestfriend, we've been friends for 18 years and I was more upset when we had a fall out then I was when my ex cheated on me and we broke up
Having to dissolve a relationship "With prejudice". If I have to murder someone to end the relationship, no matter who they are to me, that's a PITA.
Me and my best friend are estranged from each other; but then again they are dark forces trying to wreck my relationships, I've been giving a mission to put a stop to them.
Um a break, there's really no worst. Break ups just suck.
Family member, because then the relationship was bad in the first place. (Incest, dude. C'mon.)
Dissolving a relationship with a family member, close at least.
Probably best friend or family member. My exes are replaceable and were not decent human beings in the first place. 🤷🏻♀️
Its not like OMG but yeh it can be awkward if they end up with your best friend but you'll get over it
Marriage is the worst because you're actually are phyically and emotionally intimate with your wify or hubby.
I think it would be worst break-up if it is with your family member. Because most of your life is spent with your family members and nothing is more impartant than you family.
my best friends include my family and my SO and my friends <3
To have to split up with my husband the father of my children
Family member because you've known them all your life then that happened that must be hard
Wife or husband is a family member.
And a closer one too.
Yeah but spouse is also up there in another category
Dissolving a relationship with your significant other/spouse.
I've done all three. The SO option, for some reason, caused me the most amount of pain. I mean, it wasn't even close.
Family member and best friend cause if do that to your own best friend or family who won’t screw over.
All the above are terrible but death is the worst break up. The above could be reversed ...
best friend had a good impact. used to be on gfs back then
Significant other by far, a friend would be hard as well but it's not like they're your lover.
34%(18)27%(26)19%(8)Dissolving a relationship with your significant other/spouse
Family ofc. Would destroy me if a family member never wanted to speak me again.
Family is always supposed to be there no matter the situation. Your rock that you can tell your deepest and darkest secrets to with no judgment
Its best to do this yourself, because your both emotionally connected and twisted as one. Your words will do this best.
Done the first two before. It would take a lot to walk away from a family member though I think
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