I am torn and quite honestly don't know what to do. I have a close male friend who I have known about a year. I have always tried to be a good, caring, supportive friend to him.
He went through a tough break up and I helped him through it. His ex has reappeared in his life after 8 months. She hurt him very deeply and has not treated him well in my opinion. He still took the time to talk to her for hours to 'catch up' and mend fences. As soon as he found out she wanted to talk again, he was extremely happy and smiley.
He told me he spoke to her but was afraid to tell me because he thought I'd be mad or hurt. I was kind of surprised but don't really care anymore. I told him I do not control his life and he can do what he wants.
The problem I have is I think my work is done. I helped him when I could. I know this girl is going to hurt him again or he will fall for her. I just don't have the energy to deal with it. Besides that I am extremely hurt that I could never cheer him up or make him smile like that. I just feel futile.
Should I move on?
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Sounds to me like he means more to you than a friend. If so, do move on. If not, hang around but let him know that your feelings that he's just going to get hurt again. When she does, he'll know that you have good insight and he MAY be more willing to listen next time. Yes...next time. There will be a next time too. Can you live with that too?
Hope I don't sound mean but I'm not trying to. Don't forget to be kind to yourself. No reason to put yourself out there just to get trampled is there? Do some deep thinking about this before you give so much of yourself.0