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Something came up in his life to where his affection for you fell out of place because if he still loved you, he would be willing to have a mature conversation with you about what he feels is missing in the relationship for it to be healthy again! Being in a relationship for 9 years is quite an achievement and is never an easy task to do without proper communication and trust involved. From what you mentioned, this could mean one of two things:1) He's questioning about the direction of the relationship and needs time to reevaluate his life in understanding what he's looking for. The fact that he doesn't make an effort to talk about it with you shows how uncertain and unconfident he is about the whole thing. 2) He lied to you for a long time and is looking for either a fresh start, a casual relationship or is not looking to be in a relationship anymore. He simply sugarcoated you while flirting with other women to feel the sensation of excitement again without hurting your feelings. Despite him cheating on you before with all those behaviors of his, do you believe the relationship can be fixed if he was more open to you? It's sad that he's given up on the relationship and made no effort to express his feelings about why he wants to be left alone like a mature adult would. It's a devastating feeling when you worked so hard in a relationship then it suddenly falls apart because of a lack of communication!
Why it is so hard to accept it when i did nothing wrong.. He told me it was not my fault. When he cheated he never had the answer why he did it. He never have answers for me.
If it was nothing you did, then he didn't clarify what made him so distant from you. Usually couples who love each other very much would make every effort in ensuring that the relationship doesn't fall apart and is fixed through cooperation and communication. Do you believe that if he gave time to himself that he may come around and ask you out again? I hope it's not from depression on his part!
He tells me to move on.. But i know he's terrified about that. Right now he's comfortable cause he's doing what he wants and he stills have me. It's so hard to quit.
It sounds like he just needs some time to collect his thoughts and come back to you later when he feels confident and ready to be back with you. It doesn't sound like he's a bad person but is just confused with what he wants at the moment. If he plans to come back to you, he owes you in apology for giving you no closure and explanation to his impulsive behavior of suddenly walking out of your life without talking to you about it beforehand! Just make sure not to hold his hand forever if he's taking advantage of your emotions but I trust you know him well enough to understand him.
I do understand. But he told me that he doesn't want to be with anyone else, but with he's previous stuff about cheating, my biggest fear is that. He can be telling me things to have me relax but he can do now whatever he wants. I don't want to have him back when he has already try it with someone else. I can't avoid to be jealous. This is so hard.
That's understandable to have that fear now that he's no longer in a relationship with you. At this point it's whether or not you trust him because once he devotes his attention to another woman, that could be the deal breaker right there for you. I just don't like the fact that he has control of this situation while you're feeling emotionally unstable. It's pretty inconsiderate of him to not empathize with how you're feeling and fix this problem as soon as possible so you can receive closure.
He doesn't even know what he wants. I want to give him the chance to miss me. But right now it's so difficult.
Do you have any intention of setting a date for him to return to you or did you want to wait and see what happens?
Celebrate. You have a new chance to meet someone better. For people who fall deeply in love those opportunities are few & far between.
But I'm in love. I still love him.
One sided relationships don’t work. Words don’t matter. Actions do. This guy is NOT acting like you are.
I know. He's an asshole. The worst part is that he doesn't talk about it with anyone. He just blocked it
Sometimes in life you have to do something that’s hard to do like move on.If you don’t you will have a miserable time.
I know that. Anyways it's not healthy
Sometimes its very important to give space.. Their are many reasons.. Just gv some time
But i don't understand why.. From one day to another everything changed
Time too changes sis.. Gv him space he will never leave you
Do you really think that? He told me that i must go on. But it's hard to believe why he loves me and doesn't want to be with me
So i think you should move on. Time dontbwait for anynone. Karma does its work
Where are you from?
I hope so.. That he regrets someday. I'm from Costa Rica
Great.. Do enjoy your life... Have great life.. Life is all about next step
Whats your name?
Good luck for your futurePast is history
But why? He said he's confused. That now he doesn't want a commitment from one to another. After 9 years. That's not even fair
He isn’t confused. I’m sure there were warning signs you chose to ignore.
Maybe.. But i don't understand. The risk of giving up your relationship, the woman that you love, just for playing as a kid when he is not.
He didn’t love you. If he did you’d be together
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