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Having some experience myself, I know how you feel. I believe that you don't necessarily need another guy to fix the heartbreak that you feel. I can tell you that it is helpful to have a friend to get you through the pain, but it isn't impossible to do by yourself. One thing you do have to realize though, is that there will continue to be pain that you will feel no matter how long you go after a breakup. I mean it depends on the extent of the relationship, but certain things will set off emotions. Again, this is where friends who can relate come in. It does get better as time goes on and especially when you do find true love.
The reason that people often say to find another guy (which can be a very bad idea) is because the guy acts as a distraction to those emotions and provides a kind of cushion to soften the emotional pain. Your conscious that is telling you not to use a guy like that is in the right place though. The method of a "recoil" date often leads to greater pain and heart break.
I hope that I have been able to help a little bit and if you ever want to talk, I'm here to help. I know how you feel and I'll tell you this... It will get better, You will survive, and The pain will go away. Things do get better, trust me I know. My first and only Girlfriend, Fiancée, and Breakup so far were all the same person... and I'm still here, doing OK and helping others. Best of luck, I'll be praying for you... and If you need a friend, I would be honored to help.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE