So I've liked this girl for about a year. I met her may last year. We started off as just friends, hanging out in groups. Then a few months later she must have sensed that I liked her so she basically told me that she didn't want a relationship.
Then right after this, we started hanging out as friends, one-on-one, doing datey stuff, but just as friends. Then in February I told her I liked her, but then she said even though part of her wanted to that she couldn't just handle it - that being in a relationship would be too stressful for her.
At the beginning of April she told me that she liked me and that even though she was petrified of being in a relationship, that she was willing to give it a go. Then one week later she took it all back and said that being in a relationship would just be too stressful and that she couldn't handle it.
Since then things have been shaky between us. I've had difficulty controlling my emotions, and consequently I've been pushing her away, by continually telling her how I felt and asking her out again and again. We have hung out, but not very often, and now she's basically said she needs some space.
Apparently the idea of me liking her freaks her out, and she says that she's not romantically interested in me anymore. But at the same time we really haven't hung out at all that much since April. But she says she really cares about me and is fond of me as a friend --- so we are good friends she doesn't dislike me
At the moment I know I need to give her space, and that I shall do. But if, in a few months time, my feelings for her are the same, should I give it another shot? And by a shot I don't mean tell her a like her, I mean start asking her to do stuff with me more and more frequently and just see where it goes?
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If I did'nt know better I would tell you that she used you. Because you seem like a good guy that has put the effort to try to be with this girl, and...she said no the first time. You took your time and were patient with her just trying to be there for her and you asked her if she could be your girlfriend. But for some reason well...she still said that she was no ready. Once again you do your thing and you figure that maybe the third time would be the charm because everything is looking great, and everything is great I mean she even said that she liked you. But yet...she said that she does'nt want a relashionship with you? Wow...i mean you seem like you've done everything for her, and well just when you think she might finally reward you she tells you that...she sees you as a brother? I don't know but it might be that she took you for granted and there might...and I mean there might be another guy that might of caught her attention even more. Which is messed up because it sounds like you deserve a chance with her man to the fullest. She seems confuse, and very immature, she doesn't really know what she wants. Then again she does...and well once again like I said she took you for granted. You could ignore her, but don't be surprise if that backfires in you...remember she sounds very immature, and that she could very well take it the wrong way. You've done nothing wrong, ...i really don't get her style, its confused me man. All I can tell you is think not with your mind, but with your heart. Good luck with everything man, but remember...sometimes sadly things are not what they seem to be, or in this case people.0