He knew I about the pregnancy and wanted to be involved. 4 months into the pregnancy I told him I was considering an adoption and he quit calling me. I tried to contact him the month before she was born and he told me that he had moved on with his life, fell in love and wanted nothing to do with me and the baby. He said he'd give up any parental rights and that I should go through with the abortion. First, he never signed away his rights. Second, I was no longer considering the abortion an option for me. I've looked up his facebook and he went from in a relationship to single (so much for him being in love). Anyway...I feel like he should know that she was born and that she is with me because I don't want to regret not telling him and then blame me later in life for her dad not being present. I want to know if he wants to see her. I know we both hurt each other. I hurt him first by saying I wanted an abortion and then he hurt me when he was so easy to walk away from the situation and never call me again... and then he hurt me again when he said all the things he did when I tried to speak to him before she was born.
Put yourself in my shoes... Would you tell him? How would you contact him (facebook, phone call, text)? What would you say or how would you address it to him?
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I would by facebook or phone message but just make sure that the one media you choose to contact him, that you have it recorded so that whatever happens next you'll have it for your baby to see and read herself how you told him and what was his response was, having evidence.
So I would simply say this 'Hi __, I am contacting you because I have a beautiful daughter/son which I named __. Yes, he she is your son daughter and this is my first and last message in letting you know of his her existence. I am not asking nothing from you, but if you want to be a part of (the name) life, all I ask is for you to let me know within this week via message or phone call.' Of course you can edit it your way but don't approach him heartfelt or pissed or worried or sad and pissed just see it like a kinda business approach where all feelings are left outside and rations left inside. Cause if you don't you'll scare him away or somehow make him act inadequate or pissed of your approach and not write back.1