Me and my ex met when we were in middle school, we dated 5 years then broke up. I got pregnant about a year after we broke up! He has a past record of cheating and lying, just so you know. Anyway he doesn't want to make our relationship official. He says he's not seeing anyone and doesn't want me to either. He also tells other people we're together but when it comes to me he says we're not and and he needs more time! But then he says he knows he wants to get married one day. Am I getting played?Because I can't figure out what's going on in his mind.
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Well the situation isn't very good for you, but I don't agree with what Ramalama said below. To a certain extent you have to think about yourself, but its your child you have to put first. She is the one that needs her father in her life more than you, so just because he isn't giving you what you want doesn't mean you need to end things and cause a rift in the relationship. He is clearly just protective of you and doesn't want any guys coming in on his territory, being with the mother of his child and seeing his kid, that's why he tells other people you're together, so they don't try anything with you. To be honest, if the baby wasn't in the picture, I doubt he would have even stuck around because it sounds like he doesn't want to be tied down, but his daughter is in the picture now and that is his main priority, he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, but he wants himself to be the only father figure in his kids life. Its understandable. You are getting a fair bit from him, he's treating you better than most guys would if put in the situation, I'm sure he will make sure your daughter and you have an easy life, but I think that's as far as he'll take it. Just please don't ruin it for your child.2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE