Been with my partner for 5 years. I'm bored. I want something new and exciting. I fantasize about being with other men. I dont want to hurt him or leave him. I hate that I feel this way. I know if I leave him I will miss him like crazy. We have plans to get married and I'm scared to death. I dont want to settle down yet. However, we live across the border from eachother and need to get married if we stay together. Our relationship has lasted 5 years and we've overcome a lot. he's the best thing that's ever happened to me. So why am I not happy and satisfied? I'm so confused. I keep trying to spice it up and make things interesting but it's just not working for me. Please help. What can I do to fix this? Any ideas?