what would the reason for you to cheat on your boyfriend?
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I never wanted to, and I never thought I would, I used to see things as very black and white.
Long story short, I was in a long distance relationship, and opened up emotionally to an attractive guy who was engaged (now married) to my friend, I thought that meant he was relatively 'safe' to get somewhat close to, but he started liking me and we ended up having an affair. As far as I'm concerned there is nothing wrong with my boyfriend and he never did anything to deserve it, and I don't even really understand why I'm doing it, I don't NEED it.
Reasons - I thought he was safe so I 'let him in' so to speak - normally I keep an emotional wall up between me and guys who are not my boyfriend, my boyfriend and I were doing long distance so I saw him once every two weeks, my friend's fiance was different in a refreshing way - he had something that I kinda wished my boyfriend has personality-wise (he was more relaxed, carefree, able to turn his brain off a bit). He also made me feel attractive and we had a strong connection and he was/is really really into me, which I haven't experienced with any guy EXCEPT my boyfriend. I had also just moved, and my environment felt like a different world, like I was a different person up there and a different person when I visited my boyfriend. (For the record he wasn't just after sex, he never wanted to cheat on his [now] wife either, it was just an irresistible chemistry and connection, and now we are in a no-sex FWB relationship which will end eventually because we both felt too guilty about the sex).0