OK guys I know people are going to tell me it's not a good idea and I maybe setting myself up for more heartache but I want her back and know I can't feel any worse for trying so I need advice on the best method.
We split because of the distance. She lives 4 hours away. I think in part it was due to the lack of communication as when we met up the attraction was still as strong as ever.
I've tried to get over her but I still love her and I know she still has feelings for me (she told this me the day we split). I believe the LDR split us and I know I would try much harder if I had another shot.
She has started seeing someone else. I know the guy and I think it's a rebound (he asked her out before I was around and she told him they are only friends). But I can't sit back and let a guy (she doesn't feel as strongly about) steal her
My question is what is the best way to win her back. We haven't spoken in a week. Should I leave it longer before I contact her?
And when I do contact her should it be as friends or should I just flat out tell her I want her back?
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I am going through the same thing with my ex boyfriend. He got with someone 2 weeks after our split. I'm sure it's a rebound and the thought of them kissing others etc is a real blow isn't it? I also want to win him back. He tries to deny it but we have a spark.
My answer: don't contact her yet. Let her miss you, OK. Let her think about you. I know this is hard, I'm bloody suffering myself! Let her see that this guy is not you. Sure, at first shell be as high as a kite, ignoring feelings for you and being into him. What a perfect distraction!
Get on with your life. Don't look needy and dependent. Have some fun and yeah I know it's hard but seriously, have fun.
Oh, don't talk sh*t about her new guy either.'you'll come off as jealous and insecure. Don't mention him but if she does, be kind! Handle with grace!
After around 4 weeks - if she's not done it first - contact her. Be friendly ok! Ask her how she's going and what she's been up to. Make sure you have a lot of things to tell her about what you've been up to. It may be brief but you've made contact. Keep up a friendship and ask if she wants to meet up for a FRIENDLY catch up. Remind her what she liked about you.
I know it hurts, especially then whole rebound thing x1
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