he was my first actually serious boyfriend. we only dated for about 5 months. and I fell in love with him.
he left me because he moved to a different state. we still kept in touch over facebook and he would tell me he still loves me and stuff. and out of no where he got a new girlfriend it hurt me so much. it still does. I cry over it all the time.
he was my life. and it sucks.
i deleted him out of my life and blocked him on facebook so he can't contact me and I can't contact him.
but I just unblocked him and i really want to talk to him.
but the thing is, I know if I start talking to him I'm just gonna get all emotional and its gonna be harder for me to get over him. its been almost 2 months and I'm still trying to cope with it.
i know he obviously doesn't love me and miss me because if he did, he wouldn't have gotten a new girlfriend and he would at least call me and stuff.
but the other way I look at it is if I start talking to him maybe he will realize oh damn I miss her and I lost a good thing.
i know if I ask all my friends, they will tell me to not talk to him, and to get over him.
i just don't know what to do.
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First off, it is not unreasonable to be this upset over a guy who you only dated for 5 months. If you still really care about him, then you should try and talk to him again. Him having a girlfriend should not stop you from trying to reconnect with him. There is no reason why you can't come back into his life and try to gain some of that friendship that you had. Talking to him again and feeling all the emotions might help you. I know that you aren't going to want to have those feelings, or cry, or scream from the pain of not having him anymore. But sometimes those strong and extreme feelings help you to break through what you have been fighting. And maybe, talking to him again, after this time apart, and seeing what he is up to and what you are doing now, you might realize that you are happy for him with his life. That you can honestly say, "I am happy for him, that he is moving on with his life". He might not realize what he is missing because you haven't talked to him. You will never know how he truly feels about you and the whole situation if you are sitting there telling yourself well if he really cared he would be talking to me. You can't assume that. You have to be upfront about it if you honestly want to know. You will never know until you try.0