You've done a good work.
Yes I think marital life was very interesting back then. Everything started falling apart years after 70s. The use of media has brought about so many changes in people's sense of belonging and judgement. I think the use of social media needs to be reviewed
I'm older than my profile says and I was dating and had married friends in the 70s. I saw the change. I think a BIG thing is social acceptance and the law. There is a strong correlation between "no-fault" divorce laws and the divorce rate. Before no-fault laws, a court would turn down a divorce unless it met narrow criteria.More than that, is general acceptance of living together. For example up through the 60s and into the 70s, it could be hard for an unmarried couple to rent an apartment. The landlord just wouldn't allow it. Unmarried couples living together would be majorly looked down on.When I grew up, there was almost no such thing as divorce. I didn't know anyone who had divorced parents. I still know some of those couples, and they are quite happy after 60-70 years of marriage.But you can also ask the legitimate question of why should someone who is truly unhappy, or even miserable, be forced to stay in that marriage because of the law or social pressure.
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And your point is?Families that stay together do MUCH better than those who do not. Children of divorce are noticeably and statistically poorer. Children without both parents together and involved are also much likely to achieve less, much more likely to be more criminal, and so forth. Yes, stronger families ARE better.Some "appropriate restrictions" to the masses behavior, were, in fact, quite appropriate.
My point had nothing to do with divorce or forcing statistics. Neither did the question. Yes it was put under "breakups/divorce" but the question asks for an opinion on whether or not marriage is viable in today's society. My point was that marriage itself is just a construct for peace of mind and family prosperity.I didn't mean that marriage was used to strengthen families on an emotional scale either. Marriage, in it's core, was just a way for the patriarchal system to strengthen itself through another families money. Even if the son/daughter from either family didn't like the other person, they would be forced into it to make the Family Name better. This still happens today.As the use of this method began to dwindle around 1950 and the generations began having liberalized thoughts, marriage became less significant.This isn't to say that a healthy relationship is less significant, just that marriage serves no purpose exept formalities.
"My point was that marriage itself is just a construct for peace of mind and family prosperity."You say that like it is a bad thing...
No no no, oh heavens no. I'm genuine when I say, each to their own. Peace of mind is a great thing to have, especially in a long term relationship.The second part though, family prosperity, I do frown upon. This was the main reason for marriage until the 1930s in the United States, and it's still the leading cause for marriages around the world. Having the resolve to force anyone from one family into another just to get rich or richer is disgusting and glutenous by nature.
Amen! People don't consider they could be the couple with a job loss, or one of them gets a illness, or child suffers from autism. Then when they have to face some adversity like that they get flaky. No more "for better or worse". Real relationships are going to have issues and conflict, if they don't I know something is up.
I think we should be blamed for our actions. Government came in as a result of our inconsistencies in marriage
Think and blame all you want, marriage is going extinct.
Wow, is that really what you think about women? Kinda makes you look like crap honestly. Way to generalize.
That was my reference of who I've come across hence why i was the one to write it. I have met all women to class it as generalising but nature sometimes is inevitable if that makes more sense to you lol
I haven't met*
It literally doesn't. You shouldn't generalize based on your own microscopic experience and any intelligent person knows that. Maybe you should surround yourself with better people instead of putting down an entire gender because not only do you look like crap, you now sound ignorant.
Haha how was that generalising lol i wrote my opinion of who i've known. Why would it apply to you or to the whole gender. Dont be too sensitive darling. All we are is strangers posting opinions and hence opinions aren't facts, you shouldn't be defensive cos everyone is entitled to theirs. Same way you're entitled to think and assume that i look like crap and ignorant etc but doesn't mean there is any validity to your opinion as for all you know i could be the opposite lol
Sure... It is here in America you will see people get married today and tomorrow they are separated... Seems to me also people do that for formality
Marriage is suppose to be a serious matter. Often times, people don't know each other that well, and get married because they are "in love." What they really are, is in infatuation. Marriage should be when they are in love, not when infatuated.
because they don't wanna go through divorce since one of every two couples end up getting divorced in the first 2-3 years of marriage
Yes that's why we are thinking of some therapeutic approach herr
Serious in what sense
Marriage is for life and not just to av kids over here
I noticed that too
Is it different over there
It a big part of my life marriage when the kids r not with us
That's exactly the reason why we want to look into the cause
Marriage is one of the most important event in life. It can make or break you. I put very much emphasis on marriage
Did you make a research
I didn't know it was required for me to give my opinion... sorry then