Me and the boyfriend were taking space because we were arguing a lot. It was a mutual decision and we said we'll talk about it in about a week when we're thinking a bit clearer.
I have given him space.. no calls, texts, nothing.
And was going to send a letter to him in a few days (would receive it after the week) that explained a few things but also that I know I could walk away knowing I did all I can if I decided to not work on our relationship. Brilliant on my end I thought...
I confided in my older brother. He has only spoken on the phone to my boyfriend and never met him as he lives in another country. Perfect person to confide in I thought...
My brother called him and had a man to man chat, the contents I don't know. My brother told him about the letter and how sweet it was etc.. and my boyfriend told my brother he wants us to work and loves me... I know he was just trying to help but I am mortified.
So now I've had to send the letter as it looks like I'm full of s/%# if I don't and my pride level is at 0.
Has my brother messed this up for me.. it happened yesterday?
Most Helpful Guy
Your brother may have made the right call. It seems that kind of man to man, with an older brother confirming your feeling to another person would be powerful in a positive way. But, whether or not your brother should have done so is entirely subjective.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Why are you mortified? You want it to work and he wants it to work - you guys need to work together for a better and clearer communication <3
Even though your brother called although he shouldn't have, sometimes man to man talks are much better in times like this. Your boyfriend understands you're serious because you involved your brother, and the letter was going to be written anyway.
It's time to come forward completely open :)
I think the more honest you can be in that letter, the better. You have a chance now to actually clear the space and start fairly new. New insights about each other, better judgement; maybe find common grounds where you can talk instead of fighting.
You start with the realization that you love each other. That's something you WANT to fight to keep.
Your brother helped clear any doubts, I think. Write the letter, await the boyfriend contacting you :)1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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