I went with this guy for a couple months. We worked together and we hung out a couple times a week, got to know each pretty well, made out, cuddled. He was 20, had roommates, somewhat of a loner/stoner, dropout. Me on the other hand not a big partier, college, quiet. We respected each other. The last night we were together we had a really great night, made out, cuddled, talked, etc. Then out the blue he's moving (which I knew that) about 15 minutes away which is no big deal, but he didn't bother to tell me that he was transferring to another restaurant location that we work for. I found out on his last day! Then he asks me to come see him at his new store since he doesn't have a phone. He did not give me his new address. I told him no that he needed to call me with his schedule so I would know when he would be there. Which he said he would. Haven't heard from him since. I would have much preferred that he just told me bye, see ya, have a nice life instead of just leaving me hanging. Another guy that hangs out with him sometime to smoke pot told me I should go see him. I told him no I'm sticking by my guns so that way if he contacts me I know he wants to be with me. Well that call is never going to happen, but why be a coward and a jerk about it? It more or less just gave me a blow to my ego, but really!
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Actually I wouldn't limit this to guys. I think people have trouble telling the truth, because they preempt all of the reactions and fallout that will occur, if they did tell you the truth. Most of the time, when someone hears bad news, the reaction is never good; I personally don't like to see people cry, if their getting their heart broken (I like seeing them cry, when watching a romance / drama movie though, don't know why).
Some people think that it's easier if they reduce the amount of methods that they can be contacted, by dodging you, and taking the passive approach, rather than telling you straight to your face. I know very few people that actually deal with conflict well; most people I know, try to avoid it like the plague! I mean think about it, sometimes white lies are better to hear than the truth, only because they're more digestible from the real reasons.
That's why you always hear the lines, "It's not you, it's me". That's more digestible than, "No, it's not really me, but it's been you for quite sometime, but I didn't get around to saying anything, because really I don't care any more" etc.1