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I don’t know how often that occurs but (in my experience and relationships) the men I’ve dated usually blame themselves for the breakup. I am still on speaking terms with both of my exes (I’ve only had two boyfriends). I’ve noticed my exes blame themselves for the breakup but I refuse to let them think or believe it was their fault. A relationship is made up of two people, so the breakup should be the same. You shouldn’t blame the other person and not blame yourself.In my past relationships (and futures relationships) everything will be 50/50... even when we breakup. I guess some people are just immature or refuse to accept that a breakup doesn’t mean you should blame the other person and not yourself too.
How long did you date your two boyfriends? If you don't mind answering.
No harm done :) My first boyfriend I dated for nearly three years. My second boyfriend was about a month
Was it hard breaking up with your first boyfriend compared to your second boyfriend?
It was very hard on me but I knew it needed to be done. The second time was easier:)
Because from their point of view they constantly had to "deal with our unnecessary overreactions" and think that us asking them to change their behavior was "so extra" because we're the ones "being crazy" in the first place. In IMMATURE relationships they'd rather just blame us for that and when they don't have anyone else to blame and they finally realize that just because they didn't care about the girl to "put up with her" or "make behavior modifications for her," they didn't have to blame her or put her down, they could have just left. again, not all guys do this, just the jerk ones.
Well cause she twisted everything I did said and texted. To fit her own twisted thoughts of me. All she thought in the end was I want sex. When I just wanted her support and a hug or cuddle. When my Mom was slowly dying in the hospital.Though usually I dont blame the girl cause its that we dont mix together but with her its all her fault though I'm glad she broke up with me so I would not be as attracted.
Sorry that happened to you.
It's not like all the guys do it, some guys do, same as some girls. Taking a blame is not something people are proud of so they tend to not take it and put it on the gf/bf. It's simple as that. What's the point in blaming them or yourself after a break up, you just need to know whether that particular person is worthy enough to be in a relationship with you or not.
Completely agree with this!
Hahaha you do? Has it ever happened to you?
Well I've only been in one relationship but when I broke up with him I blamed it on myself and I felt like I lost a really good dude. I dumped him so i could handle my own problems. But as I was single for a few months I realized it was actually him not me lol. It was like I went through stages of overcoming the break up. I blamed myself, then I realized it was him. Then I realized it more about what you said, "(If the ) Person is worthy enough to be in a relationship with you or not." It took me a while to realize it but he wasn't worthy enough. So I completely agree. How about you? How did you come this conclusion?
Well I just broke up with someone. And they said it was my fault and that o cheated on them but that is not what happened. Me and the guy we're just friends
Your situation reminds me of something I learned in social psychology. In group and out group attributions. It's when you are in group either it be friend or dating someone they put up with you and excuse a lot of your behavior (good or bad behavior) and then when you are out group you aren't part of their circle anymore because you broke up. So they don't excuse anything anymore, hate your guts and say crazy things. So that's why your boyfriend is saying you cheated on him. When you guys dated it was a constant worry of his and he may or may not have mentioned his concern. But since you aren't dating anymore he doesn't have to be nice anymore and he's just revealing his fears in a rude way to make himself feel better. I wouldn't pay attention to him. You only know what's right and true. There's no point on proving anything to him because he means nothing to you anymore. Just know he is very self-conscious and felt insignificant next to a harmless friendship. It's a blessing in disguis
Well, let's just say we all had that one relationship which we wonder later about why we were in such a thing but then it's the only thing that taught you many things. :-P
Question, what do the BL represents?
Some of us know we did things wrong and would do things differently if given a chance. Some women refuse to know they did the wrong things and just blame us men. Some women just go around angry at us men instead of talking to us and making things right and forgiving us. Even if they still love us and want us back, they never will admit that. That is sad.
in my most recent break up he took all his anger and blame out on me even though he knows i did nothing but care about him. i think its just a coping mechanism bc they dont want to deal w the fact that they did something wrong to hurt u, or that the relationship may be over bc of them
Because she went and cheated on me with other guys, how am I not supposed to blame her? And I didn't talk to her, she tried talking to me and I shut that shit down
After a breakup people are often more emotional or sensitive which will make them look for a comfort zone. If a previous relationship made them feel better, naturally they'll have some nostalgia for those times. Sometimes their heads are just cloudy, and because they feel terrible at that moment, they'll end up with selective memory and only remember the highlights of their past relationship, tricking themselves into thinking everything was perfect back then.
The same way females blame the males for not making them feel loved cheating or ignoring them it's just weak excuses that us as humans say because we don't like to see ourselves as the reasons things didn't work out
A downvote don't change the truth what u are asking is the same thing as what some guys do and believe it's all the women's fault
That all the guys I know do always blame it on thier ex
Just like every female I know blames there ex partner it's what humans do if we can pass on blame we will vary few people accept blame for things they do
Most people don't take the blame for breakups as it looks bad when trying to sell yourself to someone else.
I had no desire to talk to her after break up.I blame her as she broke things off and refused to talk anything through. Then sends me abusive messages for not chasing after her
I mean for one thing it makes sense that people will accuse “the other” but also — through it is apparently a radical notion to some — women can indeed be very much in the wrong.
Because they'd never get another girlfriend if they told everyone what a piece of shit boyfriend they are.
This is true
Depends on the break-up itself. Sometimes it is the woman's fault. Sometimes it is the man. Sometimes a combination of both.
In my case i have only been with two girlfriends that didn't cheat on me. Im with one of them and the other break up was my fault i will admit that i was distant and she needed attention.
Correction; but I don't remember blaming all my break ups on my partner. There are 2 sides to a relationshit, but in the end both sides have their flaws
My ex cheated on me and then broke up with me, she always wanted it her way. She was young and didn't know what she wants and I was older and I know what I wanted out of it.
You're talking about all guys like were born and raised by the same person lol. And yeah the brake up can't be only one persons fault. Just ignore him. Lol
i do blame my ex. she wanted her cake and eat it too. she wanted attention from me but focused hers on x amount of tv shows.
EVERYTHING is the girls fault... don't you know that? Lol
Because change is hard and they don't know how to deal with it
In my break up she decided she didn't want me, and now we aren't together anymore.
I can't comment from personal experience but I have seen many posts on GaG suggesting otherwise - they said that girls always blame the guy and never accept any fault.
That's just the way some people are they blame everybody but themselves
I wouldn't use a generalizing word like always, but in most cases when they're in the wrong, it's their ego trying to protect their self-esteem.
Its easier for them to believe they did nothing wrong. Also, most men usually realize long after the girl has moved on that he made a mistake in losing her. Which is why they talk to their exes.
Yeah that can be right but what about if girls do it
Its usually the same vice versa as well but at the same time no one wants to believe they were wrong till, its too late
The thing with it is that its usually mutual bullshit between both parties, neither is willing to admit, having done their part in the wrong doings, and the men are usually the ones who want that love back after time. Its not an insult, to men just an observation. So, I guess what im saying is men talk to, their exes because theyre more willing to, admit, theyve done wrong than, women and miss what they had So, its complicated
I never talked to a ex girlfriend after the breakup
I never do that but they do it so people feel bad for them
Two sides to every story. His, yours and the truth usually lies somewhere in between.
I mean this isn't something that only guys do. Girls do the same thing. Both genders do it because it's easier on them to blame the other person.
Because most of times its our fault but they abuse the privilege to use this against us LOL
Thanks that's helpful to know
In my case, i thing that both sides make something that cause the breakup. The relationships are made of two persons.
Most men and women have trouble blaming themself for anything. They always see the faults with the other person but not their own ones.
I would blame it on my ex because the broke up with me for being "too nice" and she "lost interest" Also I never talked to her again afterwards.
Have been blamed several times by my exes. its guys behaviour.
I don't know the reason
Because you break up with the right guys
I usually try not to blame anyone.
They are immature little mommy boys
cause girls allow them to talk to them
Cause easier then accepting it cause of them.
A break up is never just one person's fault.
They are immature
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