Cheated 2 years ago on my girlfriend, Admitted half a year ago, yet there's a problem?

Okay so, I'm 18 years old and my girlfriend is 17. Back when our relationship was quite young around two years ago and all... I've only flirted with one girl and it was just a period of week that I flirted with her and stopped... I've admitted with what I've did due to confidence that my Girlfriend will understand... I've never cheated on her after that, I've never had sex with anyone else other than her. I've even gotten a tattoo on my Ring Finger of her name... She of course got mad and later told me that she forgiven me. Of course I wasn't quite sure if that's going to help in my relationship, Currently she still remembers of it and she says that those "thoughts" as she recalls won't go away... The "thoughts" that it would never happen in our relationship with Infidelity. She gets depressed a lot from it and yet she says she'll be fine, I wish to help her and yet I feel so regretful of what I did in the past to her. As she told me yesterday she still thinks of it ..

My question is this, What is she going to do about it..? Leave me? Forget about it one day...? Or anything else in much worse state? For I truly love her and I've given up on everything in my life for her.


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  • I KNOW HOW EXACRLY You FEEL FRIEND. MY BOYFRIEND CHEATED ON ME AND TRY TO GET AHOLD OF ME AND TRY GETTING ME BACK. HE GOT MY NAME ON HIS BACK WITH ALL THESE HEART ANDE DESIGNS. I FORVIGE HIM BUT MORE THAN THAT BECAUSE I LOVED HIM. BUT THOSE R JUST SIMPLY WAYS OF ASKING FOR FORGIVENESS, I WILL ADVICE You TO BE VERY PATIENT WITH HER. THINK ABOUT IT THIS WAY HOW WOULD You FEEL IF SHE WAS THE ONE THAT CHEATED. FLIP THE SCRIPTS (NOT SOO GOOD RIGHT?) BE UNDERSTABLE. SHOW HER THAT You HAVE CHANGED. BE MORE LOVING, ROMANTIC AND SHOW MORE AFFECTION TO HER. WIN HER TRUST BACK AND ALWAYS BE HONEST WITH HER SOON SHE WILL GAIN UR TRUST AND EVERYTHING WILL BE BACK TO NORMAL..I HOPE I HELPED You FRIEND. IF You NEED MORE ADVICES You CAN ALWAYS MESSAGE ME! :)

    SINCERELY,

    THE WISE ONE

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    • Thanks for the advice Wise One! But As I recall, I've did changed and I am more loving, I actually spend everyday and hour and minute with her. Point is, I always look through her frame of mind. Always think of myself instead in her shoes as to how she feels and all... Each time she reminds me of what happened. Everything becomes completely blank and quiet. For I don't even know what to say next because I already know what she's going to say about it with the lines "I'll be fine", etc.

    • I SEE JUST BE A LITTLE MORE PATIENT. SHE NEED TO MOVE ON. IF THIS CONTINUES TO HAPPEN I THINK You NEED TO TALK TO HER HONESLTY FACE TO FACE. LET HER KNOW HOW MUCH You REGRET EVERYTHING AND THAT UR GICING UR ALL TO BE A BETTER PERSON. BUT SHE NEEDS TO FORGIVE You AND FORGET EVERYTHING THAT HAPPEN. IF You GUYS MOVE ON EVERYTHING THAT WAS IN THE PAST IS BURY AND SHOULD NEVER BE BROUGHT IT UP! BECASUE SHE FORGAVE You SO SHE NEEDS TO MOVE ON AND FOCUS IN MAKING A BETTER RELATIONSHIP AND BETTER FUTURE FOR You 2

    • Aye I understand from what you're saying but this isn't easy as it seems. Despite that I told her that everything will be fine, All of what you said is exactly what I'm doing every time she mentions it I keep saying of what you said about the regret everything I've did in the past. Yet still, she's depressed. she keep's saying she's having a mental issue with it and she doesn't wish to consul with medication. But I guess patience and time will tell. Many thanks for the extra advice and help!

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What Girls Said 9

  • You should be asking these questions to her. Ultimately communication is the key to a successful relationship. Just be honest with her and voice your concerns. If she can't forgive you then yes in the long run it will not work out, if she can forgive you then there is hope.

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  • Give her some time to face the truth ... and "accept" what u've done to her. meanwhile, show her every single day you love her. if she truly loves u, she will forgive but not forget. BUT even if she truly loves u, she might leave you ... since you may have hurt her feelings real bad and she may feel like u're not worth it.

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  • my boyfriend of 6 years just kissed another girl 4 years ago and I forgave him but I still get sad over it. I bring it up all the time and he say how much he was stupid and sorry about it but she will probably always be sad about it. just remind her how much you only love her

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  • Yes, it's hard for women to get over this. Just tell her you told her because you respect her & want a fresh start. Reassure her it will never happen again & stick to it. Give her some time to build trust.

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  • give her time.

    to her this is all new and its like it happened yesterday

    shell get over it, it was just flirting.

    just keep reminding her that you love her and only her

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  • So, hang on a second here. What is flirting with you and only for a week? Could you mean f***ing around perhaps? Because really, flirting can happen with anyone and as long as you realize not to go beyond words. So what is really up? If so, why are you so concerned about your girlfriend leaving you. You really didn't do anything extremely wrong if flirting is the only thing you did.

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  • If she stuck around she's probably not going to leave. But I'd watch out for a guy who might sneak up and remind her of how depressed she is about the whole situation and how he wouldn't disrespect her in that way or whatever. You can't erase it and she can't forget it. she might move on and it just depends. Hopefully she won't do the same thing. its all about trust and time. Talk to her about it. hopefully she doesn't show signs of resisting the conversation for too long.

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    • Heh, I know how would this go if there was a guy, Yadda yadda yadda. But Thing is, She does resist the conversation usually by saying that she doesn't want to remind it. Usually with an excuse or so telling me she doesn't want to make me feel bad of what I've did. Thanks for your opinion and advice though.

    • Well yw. I don't know your girl but to me personally it doesn't make sense for a chick to not want to bring something up that deeply hurt her. My main concern would be is that she doesn't stay in a place that she can't get out of because of what I had done. You should be able to speak openly and freely with one another about everything and you should let her know that. I would just want to know for sure she knows that I would die before I'd damage her world again. is all.

  • Cummon dude, you cheated. She should be mad at you. What would you do if you were in her place?

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