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Try therapy, Alanon, or Narcanon to keep yourself sane. If he wants to quit, suggest rehab, but you can't force anyone to get clean. You have to decide for yourself if you are willing and able to accept the situation. If you can't, you should leave. If he is abusive, you should leave. Remember, you didn't cause it and you can't cure it. All you can do is work on yourself to stay sane and content. Alanon (and I think Narcanon) focus on that specifically. It's about helping you. Not the addict.
I know this is harsh, but if you stay and/or do nothing to help yourself, you're a volunteer, not a victim.
Offer him amnesty if he immediately joins Narcotics Anonymous and stays clean, and sees a sex therapist to deal with his sex addiction. If he keeps his nose clean for 6 months and shows an understanding of why he made those choices, I might let him come home. He has to stay in active recovery on both issues.
There's two mistakes. Drugs and cheating. All of those, put the drug mistake first He had a children. It's not for his situation to get involved with drugs. Then it leads to cheating. He will blame the drug. But drug will never reach him, himself unless he takes it. You should discuss this with him. Stop taking it. Make him promise. One more time, he will be screw up. Bring him to a rehab or something
Leave. Why is this even a question? Is being on druggs supposed to be an excuse?
Yes even then. He choose divorce by cheating on you. It's not your fault.
I would try and help my husband and be his support. But understand that I too, would be hurt.
I will figure out something to do to get those drugs away from the children being around the house
For drugs get him help. For cheating get him evicted out of your life. For both leave and get help
Leave and get a divorce.
And take the children with you, if only to get them away from the drug environment created by your husband.
i would join him
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