I have never wanted anything more in my life than to get back with her. How do I go about it? how do I say I love you without comming off as desperate?
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Nothing says "i love you" better than behavior that is best for the other person.
Think about it. Have you ever felt "loved" when someone said: "I love you" in the past? I didnt, but I did feel loved when they remembered that I love back massages when I'm feeling down.
The keypoint being that you have to make an effort to make them happy, 24/7. That's the whole purpose of a relationship, to bring each other up. Most people unfortunately get in relationships to bring each other down, or to stay neutral.
Don't wanna appear desperate? Then learn patience and resistance.. Rather than saying: "OMG OMG OMG OMG I love you, it will never die, you are mine and always will be, I LOVEEEEEEEEEE YOU sweet cheeks, you are my beautiful little pony".. Which seems rather psychotic..
You could start by getting her to talk to you again.. Then wait a few days.. Invite her to lunch.. then invite her to dinner.. then to a movie.. etc.. It doesn't matter what you do, so long as it's for HER and not for you.. You CAN do things for both of your benefit, duh.
Start slow, and progress slow.. Don't go from talking again to having sex, if you want things to last. It relates back to the boiling water + frog analogy. "Drop a frog into boiling water, he'll jump out; but if you drop him in cool water and slowly turn up the temperature, he'll stay where he's at".. Same concept.