Most Helpful Guys
You never really get over it. You just learn how to live with it as time goes on.
A wife separated from her husband by war, could still run off and be with her first husband even if she is remarried to a new guy, but the long lost husband returns from war alive, she thought he was dead and moved on, but when she sees him again the feelings never went away and she loves him as much as the day she met him
Most Helpful Girls
Yes, only time!! This is coming from experience, I also left a man I loved after 7 years and a small child. Hardest thing I ever did, and it hurt so bad, I cried everyday for weeks, lost a bunch of work, was beyond stressed and loaded with anxiety. Now almost 2 years later, I know it was he best decision and I can’t even picture myself with him anymore, nor do I love or miss him. It gets easier with time, I promise. Stay strong and work on you, learn to love you and learn about yourself, so much can change in a person especially after such a long term relationship. I’m nothing like the woman I was and I am so ok with being on my own and being single rather in a relationship full of resentment and cheating from him. He lost, not me.
Write a list of the negative thing on your phone. Look and see if he could ever have a reasonable place and future in your life. Likely not. So realize writing or talking with him is only gonna extend this past relationship. Then choose what changes or things you want to do and focus on those. Work on yourself and do thing like hang with friends or see a movie. You can still think of him or your past. I was inspired to take up ceramics and embroidery because of an ex with a strong passion for p&p and live roleplaying