I was trying to upload a sexy video for my man of us onto his USB as a surprise so he could watch it on his PS3. at the bottom of the videos section there were 2 videos called "Me" and "me2". I clicked in them thinking it might be something funny and it was actually a video of him and his ex girlfriend. I clicked off it quickly but it was her giving him oral while he was telling her how much he loved her. now his ex is a really pretty girl with a really good figure. her figure is better than mine. I know she hurt him but I think he hurt her back (apparently she cheated, he found out and left her). I was really upset at this point I couldn't believe what it was. the second was her sitting on him, once again I clicked off it straight away. he was at work at this point. I panicked and I deleted them. don't know whether that was the right thing or not. I was so upset! this is only 2 days ago. haven't really been able to eat much since. although the video said in the info that it was about 2 years old. he uses that memory stick every day and listens to music on it. and I can't remember seeing those videos on there before, so I think he may have taken them off his phone and put them on that memory stick. he doesn't like talking about anything at all to do with past relationships. he told me to just get rid of anything of hers that I find. we had the same problem a while ago when he things were everywhere even though they had apparently been split for about 6 months to a year.
when he got home. I had had a little drink to calm myself before hand so that I didn't go psycho and burst out in tears, I said "by the way, I was trying to put our videos on your usb and I found 2 videos of you and your ex doing -everything- on there. I don't know why you would keep them, I don't know if I should have deleted them but I did and replaced them with ours. hope that's okay with you". and since then, he's just been defensive, isn't really acting like he cares. he said that he didn't even know they were there. you couldn't access the vids directly on the ps3 but you could see them there and they were the first vids to come up, you could only view them on a pc or his mobile I think since his phone card was in there. for the rest of the evening he just seemed annoyed at the fact I was being funny with him because I had seen the videos! even when I tried to be nice and asked if I could have a cuddle, he said "yeah if you want" but it was more like me attempting to cuddle up to a brick wall, he just turned himself away from me and would even put his arm around me.
i spoke to him about it last night about it and asked why he was acting the way he was. and he just started raising his voice saying HOW DO YOU WANT ME TO ACT. I said I don't know, but if we swapped positions I would do everything I can to make you feel better. and he is just being very off with me and I can't understand it!
i don't know what is going on with him or what to do. its really hurting me! can anyone help me?
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It amazes me how guys act like they are three years old.
The shorthand of my answer:
- If this guy can't grow a pair and realize that he's treating you like a prick, even though he was in the wrong, then he should lose you. You don't need to put up with this behavior and furthermore, you are subjecting yourself to worse by pampering his ego with treating him like a king when you already spoke to him about this bullsh*t once before.
If I were in your shoes, I would have altered what you said by adding: ".. Ohhh by the way.. when I added those pictures it prompted me that your sh*t is waiting in the driveway. The options were: 'get your sh*t together' or 'get out'".. But I'm a smartass a bit too much.
Sweets - get yourself a better man. This guy is a joke.