boyfriend got a new job, I’m afraid he will forget about me?

So. He is 25 and I am 21. I am currently still in school and will be graduating in the spring of this coming school year. My boyfriend just graduated and now has a career job. I’m afraid he will forget about me, or lose interest in me because I’m still in college and don’t have a real job yet. I’m nervous he will meet another woman there and take an interest in her, and consider dating her since she’ll be more at his level than me.

Whenever he talks about his day at work, I find myself getting insecure/paranoid that he was with a woman having lunch, or getting to know her. He works pretty closely with a team, and I’m sure there are women on it. He’s mentioned a few girls he’s met, like the new intern and it just makes me worry so much. He’s told me “I see how much you trust me, and I know it’s hard for you because of your past. I don’t ever want to ruin that for you”. But, he said this before his job. I don't know if he still means it.

I don’t want to bring this up to him. He sees me as a woman who knows her worth and value, and won’t settle for less. I don’t get insecure or jealous with him. But, I am just so worried and afraid.

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  • Of course it's a risk, but bear in mind that a woman's career matters less to men than the reverse. He could just as well bump into a beautiful woman on his commute, and that would be that. Not to make you even more paranoid, just to put it into perspective.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • It sounds like you have some issues you need to work out. Talking to him is probably your best bet apart from working on your issues. He could put your mind at ease. You have to understand that if he truly loves you he won't forgot about you or lose interest in you. Would you forgot about him or lose interest if the situation was reversed?

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What Guys Said 2

  • I wouldn't worry about this. When I was 25, I had a job and my 21 year old girlfriend was a university student. Worked out just fine.

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    • Of course he is going to come into contact with new people, but that shouldn't be anything for you to worry about. How Long have you been together?

  • you need to talk with him about this

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What Girls Said 1

  • "I don’t get insecure or jealous with him. But, I am just so worried and afraid."
    Your behaviour is the freaking DEFI-FUCKING-NITION of insecurity.

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    • I mean i don’t show him insecurity.

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