we were together for 3 and a half years, he broke up with me 4 months ago,
we just start talking again maybe a month ago, hung out a few times.
but the entire time we've been broken up, he lost his job, didn't go to college this semester, doesn't go out anymore AT ALL, doesn't see anyone, not his friends, let alone even other girls, I'm about the only person who has recently made contact with him.
so far he hasn't really shown any signs of wanting me back, he treats me normal, like when we were together (minus kissing, touching, sex and that stuff).
but I KNOW for a fact that he has not moved on to any girls at all.
he broke up with me becuase he said he "doesn't love me like he used to"
i still love, miss, and want him back terribly.
could he still have feelings for me?
(oh and I don't think his anti social-ness was because of the break up)
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He sounds like he has a lot going on with him. Honestly, it sounds like he's depressed. And if that's the case, the last thing you should do is put more pressure on him to sort out his feelings for you.
He'll be no good to you anyway until he gets his life back in order.
For now it sounds like he needs a friend. Be that for him and try not to push an agenda with him about getting back together. He's the one who broke up with you, let him figure out what he wants or else you're just going to be setting yourself up for rejection and more hurt.
It IS possible that he still has feelings for you, but it sounds like he's disconnecting from his life. (i.e. school, friends, etc..) Until he makes a move to reconnect with those things, I'm going to suggest you putting the breaks on reconciliation talk.
If you want to stick this out, you should also become more educated on dealing with people who suffer from depression. You will find that his lack of romantic interest is consistent with depression. The fact that he said he doesn't love you like he used to, can also be a sign that he had some sort of disconnection from your relationship in addition to all the other things that he's disassociated with.
I wouldn't enter or try to enter a romantic relationship with him right now. I think you'll be doing the both of you more harm than good. Sorry to be so blunt.2