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If I was provided more knowledge on the matter when my parents got divorced, I would have asked why they couldn't bare to be together anymore. I was only 4 years old when they got divorced so I used to believe living separately was a normal way of life until I realized the truth from observing other people. It didn't affect me much besides at one point believing all marriages would eventually lead to divorce but that's a narrow-minded thought of mine at the time. If I was at my current age and they got divorced, I would feel very sad and want to talk to the both of them separately about why they are making the choice. I could understand if it was for good reasons; that it'll make both of their lives happier in which from before, it was due to my parents having such differences in interest and not getting along from constant arguments of disagreements on a lot of things. It breaks my heart when people break apart but sometimes, it's for the better if the arguments never ended and the hatred/resentment for each other built up over time.
yeah... I suppose being four definetly didn’t allow for that question to be asked... but, they never talked about it with you later? Like... my bio dad left my mum when I was nine months old... but I always knew the reasons from my mums side of the story... I think that is a wise question to ask... do you think you would still have a relationship with both of them if they had divorced when you were older? Yeah... constant arguments are horrible... especially with kids around... and, I don't know... I feel like it creates animosity between the kids and one of the parents or both...
It wasn't until I was 14 years old when they finally came clean with confessing why they divorced. I felt indifferent about it because I was so accustomed to living a life with separate parents. I'm glad you got closure on your end at least! I humbly agree that everyone deserves to have the truth told, no matter how harsh it may be because we're all a family and have a right to know if we ask. Oh I know I would even if I was older and I still do! I love them unconditionally as I know neither one is a bad parent; it's just their differences were too great to be compatible for each other is all. It's the worst thing ever when you want to escape from their arguing but you can't because the problem is still there. I felt like they made the right choice; I just wish they found someone that was more compatible for them. How did your life go with having divorced parents?
Wow, I can’t imagine... hmmm, yeah, that makes sense... yeah... Absolutely. I feel like having that answer is necessary to moving on and stuff... I am glad for you, then, in that respect. It is hard sometimes to keep a good relationship with both... Yeah.. it really makes the household a poor environment to exist in... yeah... Well... my mum ended up remarrying when I was two... but he is almost exactly like my biological father and they are finally, after many years of horrid arguments, looking seriously at divorce... I don't know... I admit, I don’t like either one of my “dads.” They were never able to be a real... dad I guess... they don’t really like kids among so many other things... I don't know... they say when you divorce women tend to slip into the same relationship with the next one and... well... that’s what my mum did... it doesn’t give me much hope for relationships someday should I ever date 🤷♀️
Depends on parents. I am happy they broke up even before I remembered them together, they were a terrible couple. If they had been a good couple and good parents to me, I'd be devastated, though.
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Happy. I can stand their retarded fights like wtf my mom screams at my dad for him screming at her and either I'm fucking deaf or my dad never ever fucking screamed at her because I never hear him scream at her.
Yeeeaaahh... I feel you... my house has that except in the reverse...
I would be happy too and because of the same kind of reasons
Oof you sound depressed 😢
Both of you do...
But why is it depression if you can’t stand your fighting parents?
@LebenLiebe not that per se... I don't know..., do you ever feel like you just want to escape it? Get as far away as possible?
Like... you just retreat into yourself at home but then you get away and you get a bit better?
Öh why are you asking? Like no one likes fighting and obviously a divorce would make you feel better then because there are no arguments anymore
So it’s something that doesn’t necessarily make you depressed. It can happen tho
Well my parents divorced when i was 5xx~ Mrs Manson
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With the way they treated me growing up and the fact that today they keep gaslighting me, I wouldn't even care if they were to tell me that they were dying.
Too late now. Dad is dead. Mom is old. Wish they would've done it when I was a kid though...
I’m sorry for your loss... but yeah, I understand the sentiment.
If you're living at home you'll have to decide where you're going that should be on your mind and how that's going to affect you
I would be so happy. Both of my parents have passed away. I wish they could tell me anything.
I’m sorry for your loss 😞
I’d be pretty messed up tbh..
Because you are close to both of them?
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It'd break me
Then I hope for your sake that all is well... thank you for response!
Puzzled since dad died a year ago.
That is an understandable sentiment...Thank you for your response!
You're welcome :)
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