my ex and I broke up in july 08, but have since still been seeing one another. we love each other but he does not want to be with me in a relationship. he said he needs time and does not know what he wants since he is younger than me. (he is 22 that isn't even young...i'm 25, don't know why my thing says 18-24) we don't go on dates or anything like that. we usually just hang out at my house, or go out to a club or party every now and then. we are sexually active with one another though. but I want a relationship...and he just won't give me that...he tells me I am not his girlfriend and we are not dating. he says I'm his good friend who he loves and has sex with
well I started seeing someone on the side, we have had sex and I really like him. he is 23. he likes me a lot, and we hang out as much as we can. he lives about 60 miles from me and my car does not work atm so he comes out to me and we either go to music festivals together, hang out with good friends, go to dinner, go to karaoke, clubs...i have been seeing him for about 2 months but have known him since april-may of this year
now what I was wondering was is this cheating? my ex made it clear he is not ready to be with me. also I have not told him about the other guy because I think that is more than rude shoving that in someone's face. if I was just having sex with a guy, I wouldn't want him telling me about his other girls (its happened, not a big deal but I prefer not to talk about it with the guy). so yes is this cheating? also I wear protection, and have an iud so I am smart about it.
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It is not cheating, because you are not in an exclusive relationship with anyone. This is more how it is supposed to work. You are supposed to date and experience a variety of men until you find one that makes you forget all the others. The way kids go on a date with someone and instantly are exclusive is just stupid. They are throwing away their chance to meet the right person. Sex is a need for all people. You can't just try to date a variety of men but never have sex, you have needs. But your sexual life is private and need not be shared with every guy you meet.1