Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 1/2 years. I love him more than anything but there's some issues that aren't being resolved and I'm very unhappy with how things are at this point in time. It's not his fault, because his family continually disrespects me and he doesn't stick up for me as much as he should. Although I should not let his family get between us, I do not think it is fair I do this for the rest of my life. Is it wrong to hook up with other guys, even if I know in the end I will still be with my boyfriend? What should I do?
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I don't think you should get married until you get these issues with his family fixed. Its hard for him to have to be put in the middle of his family and his girlfriend. I have a guy friend who was in this same situation. Its terrible and out of all of them I felt so bad for HIM! Having to choose. So when you say he doesn't stick up for you AS much as he should...try to put yourself in his shoes and see how he feels. It can't be easy for him just as I know its not easy for you.
Yes it is wrong for you to hook up with other guys, even though you know you will be with your boyfriend. When I was reading this, I thought the main issue was his family that made you unhappy and unsure, until I got to this statement. It sounds like you may not know if your sure you want to get married yet or even to him. If your looking for approval to go hook up with other guys, your not ready to get married. I'm sure you love him & you know he's the one for you, but somewhere it sounds like you have doubts.
I can't tell you want to do, I can only suggest, maybe you take a break or tell him you need space to figure out what you want. Deep down you are the only one who knows what you feel. 10 years from now, do you see yourself happy in this situation?
I wish you the best! G'luck.0