A few years ago I moved from the small town where we lived to a big city. My than boyfriend wanted to move to the City as well but he never put effort in finding a job there. Time a few months, he dumped me because he didn’t want a ldr. It made me suffer a lot, I loved him deeply and the way he threw everything away as if he didn’t care was excruciating.
Inevitably it made me feel ugly and “not enough”. As a response, I improved myself a lot. I used to work out and was fit, but I got myself a personal trainer and worked out more and now I’m very very fit. I started going to a great hairdresser. I re-started dressing well, something I had stopped doing while with him because he seemed not to care. I became active in areas I was interested in, got hobbies, travelled a lot, and was very successful career wise.
I’m not interested in having him back. But I’d like him to realize that the girl and the life he threw away were actually great, just out of personal pride. His life right now sucks a bit. He’s paying for having been lazy career wise and also the girl he’s dating is not the type of girl you would expect a guy who wanks to Emily Ratajowski and the pictures on an Instagram page called “fitness models” would find attractive.
Most Helpful Guy
I wonder if you think he feels any pride in how he handled things? I'm sure he regrets a lot and probably things your doing great and he is a loser. I didn't break up because he thought you weren't worth it. He broke off because he didn't think he was worth it and a loser. So rubbing salt in his wounds is not necessary and a complete waist of your energy. Only your ego thinks its worth the effort. You did it you went out and got where you wanted to be. Low self-esteem doesn't suit you and thinking you have to prove anything doesn't either. You assumed his thoughts about you the wrong way.
Most Helpful Girl
What a waste of time and energy. To feel the need to show someone who doesn’t matter, who isn’t in your life and who in all honesty doesn’t even care about you that your life is so good pretty much indicates the opposite. If your life was so good you’d be out living it and creating bonds with people that are better matched but instead you’re focusing on how to show him what he doesn’t have which is an overly sensitive girl hung up on a break up that happened a few years ago. He’s not missing out here