I need to move on from a relationship that ended earlier this year, and to some degree I have, I mean I've done all the usual things like dated other people and sorted my own life out, and yet I still care for this one guy. I'm a rational person I've accepted that me and him are finished and I separatly care for him as a friend and am genuinely happy that he has moved forward and is happy. But I need that kind of satisfaction 4 myself aswell or else it is going to hold me back and ruin things. He is still a good friend 2 me despite all that's happened in the past and I have no wish 2 lose that, I only want the irrational "hope" that he will see the light when I know its impossible, 2 go away so I can totally enjoy my life and be there 4 him and myself totally, so we can both be happy. He does not know about the feelings I'm holding back, and I am not willing to talk about it as it is in the past now, there is no point bringing it all back out, it will make no-one happy. I guess I just want some advice about what more I can do really, I do not wish to be stuck like this 4 anyones sake and I know if it continues there is going to be complications. It was painful enough to lose him once, I do not wish to hold onto those feelings and have have that kind of heartache again, which will happen if I can't move on totally.
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Sorry to say but there is no easy path here. I mean, it sounds as though you have accepted it. That is a good step. You won't lose those feeling, trust me. The only thing that it takes is time. Just be aware when you are dating others because it is very easy to compare the guy in front of you to your ex. It is not totally a bad thing because you know what you like but you have to be careful, not giving the guy a chance. I have made that mistake before with women and have cut relationships short, I didn't get the chance to really know the person. I don't regret it but I have learned from it. I know how you feel, it's like trying to run forward with a back pack filled with bricks. I can say that it still going to be hard walking forward but eventually you will meet someone who helps lighten the load. Time is on your side. It sucks but it is life...1