Well basically me and my girlfriend split up almost 3 weeks ago after 3.5 years together. She told me that she wanted to just be able to go out and have fun, hang out with her pals, meet new people, explore and experience new things, not be tied down to a relationship just now (we are both 20) and to be single for quite sometime... We spoke on the phone and through email once within the next 5 days and that's where she said again that she wanted all of the above and that she wouldn't be moving on that fast as she is happy to be alone and single...Well, 4 days later she goes to a friends beach party and apparently they start talking. She told me 2 days ago that they have been hanging out quite a lot and that "she really likes him" and "he seems to like her" and that they are more than friends and they have already done flirting/kissing/and som bedroom activities...It doesn't make senseconsidering why she broke up with me in the first place! She moved on within a week and basically in a new relationship already. Also she has never been the type of girl to jump into a relationship that fast before, so again that doesn't make sense. we split up for just under a month a year ago and she met someone after 1 week then too, however they only hung out a couple times and only managed kissing a couple of times. She said that she had made a mistake going with him as it wasn't what she wanted. That she tried being with someone else and didint like it nor want it again in future and that she just wanted to be with me forever... my friends and family all are furious with what she has done and eem to think it was more pre planned. She says she wants to have more space and time apart from me so she can sort of forget the 3.5 years in such a way, but to me and others it seems like she has already forgotten them considering what she's done...She said she hasn't and I'm being stupid... :S
In all I just don't know what oo do or think about th situation. I have came over for a holiday to scotland to see my family for the last 2 months almost, and this is where she says she's done a lot of changing, I don't think by herself though...everyone says others must have said something...Obviously not being there, she's missed out on the happiness, love and lust and do you think that's why she's gone straight to a new boy because she missed it or another reason?
What do you think about the whole situation of wanting to be single but then straight to a new guy?
Basically I'm just asking for advice on what to say/do or what you think about everything I have said...? I didn't want to split with her and I love her and care for her to pieces. She says she cares for me a lot and always loved me and that she's really sorry. If sh did care or was really sorry, she would stop what she's doing right and think of not just herself?
Peiple have said it seems to be a lot of cofusing in her mind and that...
What does everyone think? Advice, please help? :(
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Translation. "You may have been a good boyfriend to me, but I got tired of you and I want to explore other guys out there. Even though I and young and I told you that I don't want to be tied down in a relationship that was just to let you down easy. I just don't want to be in a relationship with YOU now. I am moving on, but I still want you a part of my life for advice, comfort, and for someone to talk to about my problems with guys I will be boning. It doesn't matter if you understand or not, because your feelings are not my main concern, it's all about me. Even though I know you are good for me and I know how you feel about me, I have been seeing this other guy anyway. Things are going great with him and there is nothing you can say or do that will change my mind. I would like for you to be "friends" with me because I don't want to feel guilty about this, and even though it won't be a real "friendship", you will understand anyway because I know you are a sucker for me. Thank you for all the good times, but it's over. Take care, chase me, be jealous, and try to enjoy the front row seat of misery that awaits you". Move on, cut all communication, don't be "friends" with her, start dating other girls, live your life, don't wait for her and remember this experience. Don't put "love" in front of common sense.0