Hello. My relationship has been a roller coaster. Two extremes. Really happy and really sad. On and off. My boyfriend and I had said over and over again that we would stop arguing, take each other into consideration, and be simple and happy. Towards the end, I was really insecure and I would ruin good moments for no reason. I took him for granted. He was so sweet to me. And I just took it all and made it into something like it wasn't real, like it wasn't good enough. Tired of this sh*t, he broke up with me. It's been 2 weeks we haven't seen each other. He said we can still keep in touch and he wants to be friends, but he's not ready and he has to let feelings blow over. When asked if it would ever go further, he said I really don't think so. Thing is I don't want to be just friends. And I'm done being my unhappy self. I told him what if that was offered and he said he doesn't trust me. He can't answer if I say ideally would you pick friends, us happy, or nothing. He says friends, like us happy is not an option. Anyway, why would he still want to eventually keep me in his life(if that's even true)? And what should I do? Does reassuring him that he was always sweet to me going to change anything? Right now, I'm staying out and trying to forget. If he contacts me, I answer truthfully and I don't throw anything negative. His mom said he's hurt and she's convinced he'll come back for me. But from what he's told me, I really don't think so. I was selfish and I'm going to stop. But, seriously is there any hope of us getting back together, or at least of him wanting to see me? I tired to make this as clear as possible.
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I was on the side of your boyrifrned in my relationship and it feels TERRIBLE to be on the receiving end of someone that "plays games.' I felt I was also not good enough for her because every time we were getting close or had a great time she would ruin it. I finally broke it off and this is after many previous on again/off again in the past with her. Reaching the final straw is a process and if he is not contacting you it's not a good sign. He might of "had it." The thoguht that crossed my mind was "how is making up this time around going to be any different than it was before?" For a while she would act great and we would be really close, only for her to start the push/pull thing all over again. It gets old and tricks are for kidws...as they say...We only get one life and sometimes we are lucky to get a second chance with a person...but a 4th,5th, and 6th chance just gets old...I can understand your boyfriend as well as your frustration but perhaps you may have commitment phobia as my ex later discovered...I broke up with her over a year ago and I'm happy to say, it was the best decision of my life...you get ONE life...try to get it right and appreciate ALL that yoU HAVE NOW because once it's taken for granted...it may not always be there...I hope this helps you in some way by hearing what it's like to be the other person...we all just want to love and be loved without the drama...0