There's a girl I've been friends with for several months, just very recently started dating. A couple days ago, we ran into each other at a party. Both of us were very drunk. We danced a little bit, she slipped, in my attempts to catch her I inadvertently got a handful of boob. Thus ensued some awkwardness for the rest of the evening despite my profuse apologizing.
However, she found me later, said she was ready to leave and asked if I was going to. Our initial idea was to grab a cab. We ran into some people outside, chatted a bit. Eventually I said, "hey, I'm parked not too far away from here, let's walk." I should have realized at the beginning she was a bit annoyed with my decision (she was keeping the trees and bike racks on the sidewalk between us). What I expected to be a 15 minute walk turned into 40, with her in heels. I had to convince her to take my coat and hat. At the end of it, she was cold, uncomfortable, and downright pissed off at me.
The next morning, I sent a very apologetic email including the line “I’m not sure that I am even worthy of calling myself your friend.” She texted me back surprisingly quickly (I was expecting not to hear anything for a couple days), saying “It’s cool, we’re still friends”.
So I don’t know where I stand now. Have I completely shot my chances with her? Can I recover? Should I take her out to a nice restaurant as an apology? Should I put this past her: “do you think we could ever be more then friends?” We just started winter break, so I won’t be seeing her for a couple weeks, but this will be eating at me until I see her again.
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First off, stop apologizing. You already apologized, she said it was cool, and honestly what you did was not a big deal. It will definitely give you guys something to look back and laugh about though :)
I think putting the line “I’m not sure that I am even worthy of calling myself your friend.” in the email was a mistake. It makes you sound like you completely lack confidence, something that is not attractive.
You did not ruin your chances with her. You should ask her if she wants to meet for coffee or something once the break is over.
In the future, apologize once or twice and then drop it.1