so I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and I recently found out he cheated on me with a friend of his that I recently met...she has a boyfriend and everything and her and my boyfriend were having a little fling on the low but I caught them because from the moment I met her I felt something was wrong and I digged for clues and found...my boyfriend confessed to me that all that happen was he took her out twice and they kissed a couple of times and one time she went down on him...when we had our talk before I broke up with him for closure he was completely honest and answered everything I wanted to know..he told me that he was starting to get bored with the relaitonship and he found interest and happiness in her and he knew he was wrong in doing that while being with me but he was selfish and that somwhere along the way it started to not feel right and he was starting to appreciate me...he begged me for another chance and to let him earn my trust and that he will go as far as not talking to her and I believed him and I really do want to make it work but I don't want to make it seem like nothing happened and just stay with him..i feel like I wouldve seemed weak...so I still broke up with him with the hope that maybe in a month or some time away from each other I can make him realize that if he does this again there will be consequences.
so my main point is...if so how do I reach out to him after I feel like I have had time to myself and given him time to learn his lesson?
or should I wait and see if he contacts me later on?
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Most people will tell you that to leave him. But I will say no. Besides the cheating incident, if you think he meets your standards and you can see yourself with him in the future then you should try to work it out. Take a look around this website or around other forums and see how many people complain about a cheating partner. what are the chances you 're not going to end up with a guy that got dumped for cheating. Just work it out with him and maybe he wil learn his lesson. Now it's good that you dumped him. You made your point that cheating is not tolerated , but everyone deserve a second chance. Now how do you do it? Don't contact him, if you do you will lose your power. let him contact you and don't play games when he ask for a chance tell him whatever it is that you have in mind.0
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