he cried so much in front of me, we hugged tightly and we kissed and we said so many things. He said how he loved me and how I made his life better, I put him on his own 2 feet and helped him in life.
we are young, I’m 17 and he’s 16 and we were together for exactly 8 months with no arguing and no drama. I’ve brought up the idea of breaking up once before, when my feelings were changing in the summer, but nothing feels right so I decided to end it. I could tell he didn’t want things to end, but now I’m scared we’ll never talk again.
im just wondering when would it be okay to get back in contact? We haven’t talked since that night, we did it in person obviously, but since it’s only been a day I want to give it a while. I can see him online social media lots and to me that makes me feel like he couldn’t be bothered with us being broken up.
he hasn’t reached out to me in any way at all, hasn’t deleted me off social media or anything, and I just have no idea how he’s been handling it going to school everyday and acting okay (according to his friends he seemed okay until he brought up the breakup, then he seemed quiet)
but i I want to reach out to him and just talk about things, I kind of rushed this breakup and am sort of regretting it but not sure if I want him back. I just want to see him and talk to him, how long should we wait? And what if he never contacts me again?
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the fact that he is on social media does not suggest he couldn't be bothered with the two of you being broken up. by that logic you couldn't be bothered too right?
i think you should give him space. i think reaching out now confuses the message of a break up if you reach out so soon.
what if he never contacts you again? i doubt this would happen but it was a break up. he's gotta pick himself up and move on.
i really wouldn't reach out. i think any message probably is a tease that perhaps things aren't really over for him and may give him false hope or generally confuse him emotionally
damn, tough brake, ay hope your holding up, it sounds like its his first real breakup. maybe yours too? ahh he's going to be going through the same thing as you (like overwhelmed, confused, etc.).
the truth is, its up to you how you want to take it. thers no real right way, so to speak.
It would be a nice gestureto be open about the situation with him.
as for you regretting that whole thing, I wouild make up your mind, and stick to it. if you want to go back, let him know, if you feel uneasy, then dont. but be clear with how you see things between you two. and be open to the fact he can just as likely not contact you, and you just got to be ok with that.
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Trust your feelings. If you don’t like this guy, then you did the mature thing by ending it. You won’t be holding him back from the possibility of him finding someone. It’s okay to want to check on him and everything but try to keep your distance. The more you hang around and keep talking, the more he thinks he’d have a second chance with you and not move on.
I just broke up with a guy I really cared about two days ago, but I just couldn’t love him the way he loved me. It wasn’t fair for him, and I felt guilty if I were to be selfish and just hold on. And I also feel guilty for ending it. We feel guilty because we don’t want to cause the pain of the breakup, especially since a lot of us have been on that side before and know how much it sucks.
Trust your heart and your instincts. If you were unhappy with him, you did the right thing for yourself and for him. It’s hard, but it’s a part of life. There’s a lesson in each relationship. You learn what you like and don’t like.
I think you should take your time and make clear in front of yourself what exactly are your feelings towards him. Yes, you’ve rushed a big time. Feelings can diminish and then go up during the relationship. It doesn’t mean we need to break up with a partner every time we feel it less strong. You’ve broken his heart, why are you expecting him to be in touch. You didn’t make him feel loved and appreciated. He’s cried, surely he’s bothered, it doesn’t mean he’s going to cry on your shoulder forever. He obviously has dignity.
You’ve made a decision to break up with him. If you wanted to keep talking to him did you bother to offer him your friendship?