Yes, Christmas morning and the only gift my SO wanted was for me to never think back to the cheating with his ex girlfriends from the beg of our relationship. I did not find out about the 2 girls until just over a year after engagement. I did not find out from him but by another person otherwise I amy have never known. By then I loved him, had started a future with him, loved by friends and family,we were spiritually, emotionally , physically connected on so many levels together.You can stop laughing at me for being naive.The 2 tx's cheating happened within the first 3 weeks of our relationship with 2 of his ex's. Prior to me and him dating he was with one girl on and on for 5 years.(he did cheat online, and in person with 3 girls during his relationship). He had every excuse in the book to rationalize why he thought it was OK. The other one he cheated on he did tell me that he had no intention of a future.However, he did tell both these ladies that he did love them and planned a futurer with them too.To me it was all wrong and he too away my free will to a choice but here's my question.He cut things off with them when he knew I was the ONE.
Will I ever get over it? I never bring it up to him but sometimes I do get upset and think about how could he have snuck around and do this to me.I am plagued by questions that I know there is no answer. Does time really help heal? Or do you just bury the feelings and pretend that he has changed?It's been almost 2 years later and even though I don't think about it all the time, I do think about what if or is he doing this to me again? I'd love to hear some advice or how you cope and deal with these feelings. I can't talk to him about it because what's done is done. How do you reassure yourself that you know he/she loved these other people and still cheated and now won't with you
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theres two kinds of cheaters.
type one: the one that cheats, may or may not feel bad about it, then does it again later and never really stops.
type two: cheats once, feels terrible about it, and never does it again.
your's is type one, leave him asap. get over him and remember that he will never deserve you.2