Well my boyfriend broke up with me 5 months back. Was quite harsh when breaking up, insulted me an basically beat me down verbally... but said we could still be friends. We came back to uni (we're on the same course, but had been together for a while before uni started). Over the summer he contacted me once to ask how results went- and then just a random time to ask me a question I'm sure he already new the answer to. Anyway, we came back to uni and he seemed really uncomfortable around me, wouldn't look at me, or speak to me and basically tried to avoid all contact with me. When drunk he stand there and glare at me if I came anywhere near him, he tried to get with some girls in the first term but failed. A few weeks on my close friend (my now bf) asked my ex how he was feeling about everything he said he was feeling awkward and that it was a lot harder then he'd thought to come back and be friends with me. My mate then said "it seems like you still care a lot for each other though" and my ex agreed that we did.
I don't understand what his problem is. We never fell out- I've been nice to him since we've come back... any guys know what's going on?
oh- also, he's being a bit funny with my new boyfriend - ie won't talk to him as much any more... the other week we came to a party together (me and new bf) my ex saw us arrive and immediately left?
any thoughts on what's going on in his head?
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i generally think he doesn't know what the f*** he is doing. is he acting full on d*** head so to speak and is he being rude or just avoiding you. it took me and my ex a really long time to start to talk to each other again. it takes a while for scars to heal if you understand what I mean. it doesn't fully make sense why he is doing this but this is my thought, he is acting like this because he wants to hide behind a figurative barrier and is acting in such ways because he is still confused and doesn't know what he is talking about.
he is acting this way because he has mixed emotions toward you. he is projecting it unjustly and is being unfair to you...leave him alone he is just trying to get a response from you and doesn't want to act like this. trust me he is just acting like this to get shock value out of you. if he tries to be nice toward you be nice back but if he acts like a d*** toward you try to tell him basically, Fuck off.
this will work but it could have repercussions good or bad if it is a chance your willing to take take it.0