just wondering after you break up with someone...do you usually stay a few min to let the other have a chance to ask why and ect?
whats a normal amount of time to stay to talk to her about it? what if she ends up just crying and doesn't talk...do you just walk out?
im trying to be as nice as I can about it...
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When my ex dumped me with no warning he stuck around after but offered no comforting words. He didn't say "I'm sorry, I know this must be hard to hear" or offer up anything. Actually all he did say about it was "I'm not going to hold you and coddle you and tell you it's okay because it's not". Please don't do this to her, it sounds so defiant as if you could care less. I even asked him why he was still sitting there and he just said "Do you want me to go?" Well what the hell are you doing if you say you don't want to discuss working on it and you aren't willing to own up to your part in hurting me? When he finally did leave I went to hug him goodbye ( to be polite or show I wasn't angry or whatever) and he held his arms away from me and wouldn't hug me back. In retrospect he made it SO MUCH worse by acting like that. So be there to comfort, although don't give false hope or mixed signals, and if you feel like you guys are talking in circles, say so gently and leave it at that. If she gets angry and unreasonable, offer to talk at a later date when she's calmed down ( but this can be a slippery slope, because the point is not to let it drag on and on). I think that acknowledging you know this hurts her but that it isn't your intention is about the best you can do. It is going to be painful and difficult no matter what though. Good luck.0