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In a way, yes, you were being selfish. You were trying to spare him, and not make your thing, his problem, but he's supposed to be someone you can feel comfortable venting to. One of the things about being in a relationship with someone who has depression is that I know sometimes my girlfriend is just going to shut down, but the thing that would kill me more than her shutting down, is her feeling like she couldn't tell me what she was going through.
It isn't her fault, just like this isn't your fault. She can't help that she isn't ready to say more, but ending what we have because of her depression would be incredibly cruel.