I've been broken up from my ex for a little over a month now. Been doing no contact after getting advice on here. My ex has texted me a few times but I feel like it's almost making things worse because it just always ends with him saying he needs space or whatever. Then I heard that you should agree with the break up by sending them a message or whatever saying you're sorry for how you reacted but you agree with the breakup now and think it was for the best. First I want to know if you think that actually is a good move? Do you think that will make him want me back? And also if I should do that when should I send the message? I feel like it should be after we haven't talked for a while but then he ends up texting me like I said. So confused
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Did you initiate the break up?
If you did, I wouldn't say "sorry for how I reacted," as it would show vulnerability and make it seem like you want to get back with him. I'm having a little trouble following though... do you want to get back together? Because I'm understanding that you don't... I suppose I'm slightly loss as to how he always ends up saying he needs space... as if you were asking him to go back to your or something. Clarify please?
Regardless, you'll need to figure out what you want for sure, whether you want to be with him, or not. If you do, well maybe someone else can offer some advise. If not, perhaps he's wanting to see if you've moved on; as if to say he has you under his thumb. Is he making any attempts to talk to other girls or what not? Does he ever message you in ways where he seems to bring up the thought of going out again or are they just plain random?0