Most Helpful Guys
I disagree with the guy that said it was a shallow reason for breaking up. I think it's a perfectly valid reason.
Have you ever taken the quiz at www.5lovelanguages.com to see what your "love languages" are? (That's basically what things you need in a relationship to feel loved.) My guess is that Quality Time will be one you score fairly high on (at least 6 and probably higher). That's my highest score and I would have a hard time staying with someone that I couldn't spend much time with. That in fact is one of several reasons that I got divorced.
Getting the things you need in a relationship is important. If the person you're with isn't willing or able to give you that, then I think breaking up and looking for someone that can give you what you need and that you can give what they need is a good idea.
That doesn't mean that the person you're breaking up with is a bad person, but just that you're not compatible as romantic partners.
If you do take that quiz and are willing to share the results, I'd be interested to know if I'm right that you have a 6 or higher on Quality Time.
You re a girl, and have feelings that need to be nurtured constantly. If he was unwilling to do that for any reason, then you are better off without him. Feelings can tear us apart. Give your feelings to another man and expect better treatment. Guys have a lot of flaws, but they should make an effort to let a girl know that she is his. You have a responsibility to be happy in your life, and feel wanted ( Even controlled by a guy. ) your ex did try to do that with you. You did make the correct decision to split up with him. - I really feel for you, those feelings you have for him must hurt you terribly. There are guys out there that will give you love so you will be happy - and you will fall in love with someone else. Bottom line - You will be much happier - even if the next guy has a bunch of flaws ( MY LORD, WE REALLY DO! ) But this guy did not deserve you or any girl. Stay away from him no matter what. Your judge is how does a guy treat you daily. Your life is to precious to wast it on this guy - or any guy that treats you in the same way.
Most Helpful Girl
You made the right decision. Even if he was putting the efforts it's still not worth it to be in a relationship in which u can't even spend some time together. It's not even a relationship. I would understand if it was something temporary but the way it is with his job and all, maybe it's not the right time for him to be in a relationship...